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Friend snogging partner in front of me

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ThatNimblePeer · 15/02/2025 19:44

Was remembering a recent incident with a friend today, and curious whether others would also consider that this was a bit odd and rude, or that IABU.

Friend is 30 years old and lives in a different city. I was making a trip there, and we agreed that the two of us would meet for an afternoon event that was somewhat outside the city. We got public transport there, but she said that her bf, whom she had been with for about 6 months, could probably pick us up in his car on the way back.

We had a few hours together, all nice, and then her bf came to pick us up. I hadn’t met him before. When he arrived, I can’t remember if he briefly said hi to me, but they basically just started snogging and cuddling like teenagers, eyes on each other no interaction with me, and carried on for about 15 minutes. The event had finished by that point and there wasn’t anyone else around, so there wasn’t really anything for me to do, so I sort of wandered away for a bit, came back to see if they were still going, wandered away again, till eventually they were finished. Then we drove back to the city and had dinner together, before I took off.

AIBU to think that’s fairly odd/rude behaviour by our age, and that they could have waited till they were alone later in the evening? I get it when people are teenagers, or if one of them worked away most of the time or had just returned from a long voyage, or maybe if it was a brand new relationship. But they had been together for at least six months and were seeing each other regularly. It sort of felt inconsiderate at best and a bit creepily exhibitionist or at any rate show-off at worst.

Would you just see it as normal?

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Evaka · 15/02/2025 19:46

That sounds rank.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 15/02/2025 20:31

You're not the woman who's friend was having sex with her boyfriend in her kitchen, when she was supposed to be making a pizza, are you? 🤭🤭

Yanbu, it's very very weird for someone over the age of 18 tbh 😭

ohyesido · 15/02/2025 20:35

Very rude and oblivious of them.

I didn't know people still use the word snog, hate that word

x2boys · 15/02/2025 20:41

Not great but I assume they are in the first flush of love ,embarrassingly I waa a bit like this when I first met dh 20 years on we barely ackowdge each other leaving 🤣

ThatNimblePeer · 15/02/2025 20:45

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 15/02/2025 20:31

You're not the woman who's friend was having sex with her boyfriend in her kitchen, when she was supposed to be making a pizza, are you? 🤭🤭

Yanbu, it's very very weird for someone over the age of 18 tbh 😭

No, I’m not that poster - thankfully!

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Allinadayswork80 · 15/02/2025 20:46

Urgh, rude and unnecessary, surely they can keep their hands off each other long enough to spend time with a friend and save it for later. I’d find this really rude and think twice about my friendship and spending time together in the future.

PinkPonyClub25 · 15/02/2025 20:47

Ugh, I would of said something there and then that's really rude of your friend!

DollydaydreamTheThird · 15/02/2025 20:49

YANBU. This is totally minging. I would have had to leave and get a taxi back or something. I hate PDAs at the best of times but knowing you literally had nowhere to go is just plain rude of them.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 15/02/2025 20:49

ThatNimblePeer · 15/02/2025 20:45

No, I’m not that poster - thankfully!

She'd had a terrible time of it 😭

What was the dinner like afterwards, must've been awkward 😬

ThatNimblePeer · 15/02/2025 21:03

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 15/02/2025 20:49

She'd had a terrible time of it 😭

What was the dinner like afterwards, must've been awkward 😬

Honestly I’m such a people pleaser (and had no other way of getting home! Public transport finished at that point) that I didn’t say anything to either of them about the snogging, and just chatted with them politely and pleasantly once they were done. They also just were so confident about their behaviour that I honestly wondered if I was the unreasonable one - helpful to see from this thread that it sounds like maybe not. So dinner wasn’t awkward, at least from their perspective, but I clearly need to learn to be more assertive in future.

I don’t love the word snog either but couldn’t think of a good alternative.

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Nothitrockbottomyet · 15/02/2025 21:07

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 15/02/2025 20:31

You're not the woman who's friend was having sex with her boyfriend in her kitchen, when she was supposed to be making a pizza, are you? 🤭🤭

Yanbu, it's very very weird for someone over the age of 18 tbh 😭

Oh I'd missed that thread!

Just had a wee read of it!

ThatNimblePeer · 15/02/2025 21:12

Nothitrockbottomyet · 15/02/2025 21:07

Oh I'd missed that thread!

Just had a wee read of it!

Derailing my own thread, but I’m curious what you googled to find it - ‘Mumsnet boyfriend sex kitchen pizza’?

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BatchCookBabe · 15/02/2025 21:14

She sounds like a massive attention seeker, and not much of a friend.

Nothitrockbottomyet · 15/02/2025 21:21

ThatNimblePeer · 15/02/2025 21:12

Derailing my own thread, but I’m curious what you googled to find it - ‘Mumsnet boyfriend sex kitchen pizza’?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5271783-friend-at-it-in-the-kitchen

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 15/02/2025 21:26

ThatNimblePeer · 15/02/2025 21:03

Honestly I’m such a people pleaser (and had no other way of getting home! Public transport finished at that point) that I didn’t say anything to either of them about the snogging, and just chatted with them politely and pleasantly once they were done. They also just were so confident about their behaviour that I honestly wondered if I was the unreasonable one - helpful to see from this thread that it sounds like maybe not. So dinner wasn’t awkward, at least from their perspective, but I clearly need to learn to be more assertive in future.

I don’t love the word snog either but couldn’t think of a good alternative.

Oh 😄😬 i can imagine if they acted confident about it there's not much you can do really, best to just go along with it

Snog is defo appropriate here x

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 15/02/2025 21:27

Nothitrockbottomyet · 15/02/2025 21:07

Oh I'd missed that thread!

Just had a wee read of it!

😭😭 im laughing all over again

IridescentRainbow · 15/02/2025 21:35

I once gave a colleague a lift to her new house. She invited me in to meet her husband and to see the new house. We were walking upstairs talking and I turned around to say something and he was holding her crotch. It was VERY embarrassing and I couldn’t wait to get out of there.

ThatNimblePeer · 15/02/2025 21:37

IridescentRainbow · 15/02/2025 21:35

I once gave a colleague a lift to her new house. She invited me in to meet her husband and to see the new house. We were walking upstairs talking and I turned around to say something and he was holding her crotch. It was VERY embarrassing and I couldn’t wait to get out of there.

Maybe I should be grateful they didn’t go that far… 😬

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