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[ItsGrimUpNorth]

I gave my friend £20 because she said she could get me some great olive oil from Spain.

The oil has never materialised.

I've asked her for the money back but she says she's lost money too and can't/won't give it back. She said she sent the money in good faith to a friend in Spain to place the oil order.

What to do?

i'd have to write it off to experience.
and not trust her with my cash again.

I would ask for it back - and remember never lender or borrower be - I lost a good friend after lending her around £100 never got the money back and lost her friendship

That's really annoying. I would be hacked off. And never give her money again!!!

I know I won't give her money again. But I want to give her a piece of my mind too but then again I think it wasn't really her fault. Perhaps we were all suckered. . ..

Depends how much you value her friendship really. Is it worth falling out with her about? Can you afford to lose the £20? I know at the moment I couldn't but whether I would risk losing a friend over it would depend on the friend.

Oh it's not really the amount. It's the don't-care-ish attitude.

If I had done that to friends, I would be really apologetic and try to make good.

£20!! for oil!! i personally wouldnt of spent that on oil, unless of course it would was up too

It was for seven litres of virgin olive oil!

what merryberry said.

when would you use that?? lol the mind boggles eh we'l all see your friend on the real hustle with the virgin olive oil scam lol

When I was a teenager, my best friend broke my favourite necklace carelessly one day. She point blank refused to replace it and refused to accept any responsibility for breaking it - she just said that as it was my necklace, it was up to me to replace it. It took me a good while and more than a broken necklace but I did eventually realise that she was no friend.

Your friend, going by your story, reminds me of her.