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Job Hunting - Too nice for the job?

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PP1991 · 14/02/2025 10:50

Wtf.

Im a bit flabbergasted tbh. I spent time researching the company, got in contact with a person from HR to discuss the job, they were really enthusiastic from the off - even adding me on LinkedIn, which i thought was a bit random but took it as a good sign. I had an interview, took time off work to attend. Spent a lot of time preparing myself etc. ive just got a call this morning to say, i interviewed great but im too nice for the job and (unprofessionally) they said id be too good to work for the people involved! Im gutted as this was the next step up for me plus £10k more salary! They even went on to say that they probably wont fill the position at the current time. I feel like its been a big waste of time tbf. Of course i came across as nice in the interview! How else would i be? Ive got a lot of experience in this job and have worked with lots if tricky people over the years. By all accounts its a very good company to work for. Im gutted but wondering if its a lucky escape. Just needed to vent

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Househunter2025 · 14/02/2025 10:52

It sounds like they realised they don't want to fill the position and are trying to be nice. Probably the person feels embarrassed for wasting your time

JMSA · 14/02/2025 10:55

I'm torn on this one. On the one hand, they've wasted your time and the excuse given is weird.
On the other, they felt the culture was wrong for you and that it was best to be honest about that.

Either way, I think it's for the best that this hasn't worked out.

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 14/02/2025 10:57

They added you to LinkedIn to look at your full profile and this is common practice so I wouldn’t see this as weird.

I know you are disappointed but it sounds like they just wanted to let you down gently because they didn’t think you were right for the role. A lot of people have to prepare interviews, presentations, assessment days and take time off work for interviews so again this is normal.

Gently OP reading between the lines it sounds like what they might be saying (without saying it) is that they may not think you have the confidence to speak your mind, you may be a pushover in some circumstances, you didn’t demonstrate leadership qualities, you may just go along with things and making hard decisions that impact people negatively may be hard for you or your boss has a strong personality which may not gel well with yours (not all of these of course or even any but examples of what they may mean).

It’s a learning experience and not meant to be. Instead of being downhearted see it as valuable feedback on what you can think about for next time.

Good luck.

PP1991 · 14/02/2025 10:58

I think you’re probably right. Just pissed off id spent so much time on this for them to give me a wishy washy reason. Oh well, at least my CV and interview head is on/answers to Qs are up to date…. 🥴

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