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Feeling very bitter regarding greedy XH and divorce

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Beeloux · 14/02/2025 09:05

Hi all,
I know I’m BU but I was hoping to vent as I’m feeling bitter. Divorce came through 2 years ago.
I paid all divorce fees despite being on UC (young dc) while he is on approx 50k.
Had to spend thousands on child arrangements with my solicitor as he kept pissing around and ignoring letters.

Stupidly I didn’t sort out a financial order at the time. Mainly due to my savings running low and the stress he had put me through with the child arrangements. I’ve just been to my solicitor to arrange a consent order and clean break. He point blank refused to pay towards it so I have forked out £1.6k of my savings. He is under the impression I may inherit in the coming years and makes crude comments saying that he will be entitled to half. Hence why I need to get this clean break order asap. He was insisting that I pay for him to get legal advice but my solicitor said that was on him to sort out. He’s also insisting we can’t make any negotiations once d81 form is completed which makes me think he has a lot more money than he claims despite asking to borrow money (which I decline).

I can’t help but feel really bitter, especially as I’m pretty sure he only married me for a visa and he was horrendous to me but that’s a different story. We don't have any joint assets and I don’t want anything off him but it seems so unfair he has walked out of the divorce without spending a penny while I’ve been financially crippled. He goes on numerous holidays a year, last one was for 7 weeks.

Just feel so bloody miserable today! Do they ever get their karma?

OP posts:
LaurieFairyCake · 14/02/2025 09:13

Absolutely allowed to feel bitter Flowers

Secure your inheritance and make sure you are always going through CMS to get your maintenance. Also block him, so he can't say that shit to you. Make all drop offs/pick ups at school/3rd party so you don't need to communicate WITH THIS MASSIVE ARSEHOLE Flowers

Beeloux · 14/02/2025 10:02

Thanks very much @LaurieFairyCake. He truely is awful. Life just seems so unfair how such a nasty person can come out on top. I’ll definitely be applying for maintenance. I just checked the calculator and he pays half of what he’s meant to (and moans about that!).

OP posts:
LaurieFairyCake · 14/02/2025 10:12

Now you can tell yourself then that over time he will have paid towards the divorce Wink once he's paying correctly

toomuchfaff · 14/02/2025 11:21

Inheritance is off the table, its not a marital asset, its a personal asset and he cant touch it. Ask Google, I searched for another post recently!

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