Please share ideas to be smug about those who forget valentine's day

[Hattieandcake]

Passive aggressive ideas welcomed! Not really bothered but I think it will be funny in case it is totally forgotten / no token given.

Why? It's not compulsory to do anything.

Plus I think it's more important how people treat each other all year round so big showy offerings every time it's shoved in your face by marketing will never compensate for not being a loving, generous and all around good partner the rest of the year, and if this was the case, you'd not be bothered about 'Hallmark Treats'.

One of my ex bosses always used to make a big show of having flowers delivered to the workplace of his current partner but the reality was that he was a creepy controlling misogynist who hated women but obviously wanted someone to shag and do the domestic work so the flowers on Valentines Day, birthdays etc was a small price to pay for this.

I'm not sure I understand - are you aiming this at the person who forgot to get you something or the smug people who did get something?

why would anyone want to be like that to their partner? Sounds toxic.

Its not compulsory
Ive forgotten it and came down this morning to a card and gift so now Ive got to rush around trying to find something

Tiresome

I forgot, despite being in a shop at least twice this week. I feel bad as DH only bothers because he knows I like it. I'm properly sad now 😢

What do you mean? Do you mean you want to act smug because you remembered it and your partner didn't? (And make your partner feel bad?) Or you want to act smug towards a friend/colleague/sibling etc because you got something and their partner forgot to get them something (making them feel bad)? Either way sounds unkind, so wondering if I'm misunderstanding something 🤔

I really have no idea which side you are speaking of? People who have forgotten or people who have been forgotten

Or some other people?

A bit mean girl behaviour OP, how is the test of your life? Are you happy?

If it makes you feel better, I was brought breakfast in bed and I'm the spouse feeling shitty that the card I bought is unwritten in the drawer and the cake I planned to bake isn't made because I had a crushing bout of depression last night and now I feel guilty that I didn't sort V day. Does that help? Knowing that the spouse sometimes feels utterly shit for failing? Or are you just unhappy in your relationship? Because I know DH isn't keeping score and feeling like he's got one over on me for being a better husband than I am wife.

Hate Valentine Day, thank god my husband does too.
you sound very needy and mean

You mean, you think your partner might have forgotten and you want to know how to react with good humour?

Perhaps shoehorn in the word 'card' to every conversation in an exaggerated way until they twig? Or have 'My Funny Valentine' playing in the background when they see you?

We are on holiday in Oman. I remembered to bring a card. Think husband probably didn't put it all together but he's amazing in every other way so I'm teasing him about needing to earn brownie points. We are 61 and 66 married 3 years nearly.

It's just a day invented by Hallmark to make single people feel lonely.

I don't understand your post at all. Are you looking for witty quips/comebacks for people who didn't buy their spouse or partner anything for Valentine's Day? Or looking for responses for people who did? It's unclear.

FWIW my DP and I don't do Valentine's Day. I've always hated it: I hate it even more when I'm in a relationship than I do when I'm single. I think its pointless to be forced to buy a gift for someone you're in a relationship with just for the sake of name checking something you should be observing every day. It completely undermines the idea of choosing to be with someone. Plus I find most Valentine's Day gifts nauseatingly naff.

Does that mean I should be a target of your "smug"?

I would rather have flowers any other day. I’ve observed enough harassed po-faced looking men in card shops and dolefully hanging around the crunchy ‘valentines’ underwear in supermarkets to know that it’s actually the least romantic day of the calendar.

I'm not into valentines, sorry!

Actually the only ones I remember are one with my ex where we got into a row at a fancy restaurant, and my favourite one when I drank wine with my friend and we sat on top of a hill looking at the bright lights of the city below. Very peaceful.

I don't get this either!

We don't do valentines day either. I don't see the appeal of it personally but genuinely couldn't care less what others do. It would have completely passed by me this year if my MIL hadn't text to send a valentine message onto our son!

Don't be silly. It's not funny. It's pathetic.