What would you do?

[40andstillfakingituntilimakeit]

My husband has not spoken properly to me in 57 days …

we are together 14 years but married less than a year; house , cat, two kids.
apparently i did something on the 18th dec, no idea what. Christmas was ruined and my 40th bday. While he got me a lovely 40th present (family trip to new york ) there was no love around it - only getting kids to give to me. I have tried to ask him several times (i have mainly text) as communication is poor: he has ignored. We will talk about our son with additional needs that is it

we have never gone 57 days not talking. I was shocked when i asked alexa. We have slept in separate beds for years so i manage kids and work and he works away. Again away tonight no contact. Would you think another woman??? I see he is still wearinf his weddinf rinf ; i winder why tbh

Why are you asking him via text message?

What does he say when you’re standing in front of him asking what the problem is?

Get in front of him and get him to tell you what is going on.

Exactly. Even without the silent treatment, it doesn't sound healthy. It's a transactional relationship that's all about the kids. It's weird that you don't even sleep together.

And as for all the texting?!

I'm so sorry, OP, but it just isn't working.

This is cruel and abusive behaviour.

What a strange man.

And a nasty piece of work.

You say he's a great dad but what father treats the mother of his children like this. He's not a great dad, believe me.

There might be another woman. There might not. Whatever. He is not your friend. He is not behaving in a decent way at all.

Can you start divorce proceedings? No drama. Talk to a solicitor. Then start the ball rolling. Tell him whilst the kids are out. And do not engage beyond the functional polite.

You deserve far more. It's not going to get better. Please get away from this dreadful creature. He will damage you more and more.

Exactly the same thing happened to me when mum was diagnosed with cancer .. he stopped visiting & he would ignore her messages…. Like she didn’t exist anymore- I’m seeing the same pattern with his friend now :… I think our both husbands are just two horrible humans unfortunately

This is emotionally abusive op.
it sounds like he is punishing you, but if there was a problem he would have told you what it is a long time ago. The silent treatment is just not ok.

Why not ask him face to face?!

My ex ignored me for 6wks once. No pleasantries either, just blanked me. We had a disagreement, can’t remember what it was about. That’s how he deals with things, gives people the silent treatment. I’ve told him it’s abusive. I am just glad I no longer have to deal with his moods.

I wouldn’t care too much about the reason at this point. Get him out of the house.

It seems he has ended the relationship already by his behaviour so is this really what you want your kids growing up to think is normal?