To wonder how much your post-18 adult kids cost you each month?

[89Brachen]

It seems more and more adults are staying at home, and those who go to uni still need to be subsidised. How much do your late teens cost you?

Surely some cost money!

You first, @89Brachen

An awful lot more than pre-18!

A fortune! 1 at uni, so £500 for accommodation, also phone, trains home, food in hols. The other one learning to drive, music lessons, bus for college, school stuff, phone, feeding, so probably also close to £500 a month. Can't wait for 4 years time when I can hopefully stop the financial support!

We cover tuition fees and give them the equivalent of maximum maintenance loan for rent and living expenses, so around £20k per year. They work part time around their courses.

Child 3 of 4 is now approaching 18 and has a 10-hour week student job; they all had student jobs while at college.

All have cost me a fortune; the hours they work do help, but 24/7 eating at home, clothing, driving lessons, travel, college lunches, and petrol running them around, late night collections. Uni years cost more, and the excess from the minimum loan to cover accommodation, travel home, welfare packages, trips to visit them (inc hotels), all the costs of housing them in uni holidays, big ticket items of clothing and winter boots. Petrol for running them around, etc. A bloody fortune, oh and holidays because they don't earn enough to pay for themselves.

DD is 19 and is at work (has been since finishing college last year). I don't ask for rent as I'd rather her save for a deposit for a house so she puts away 3/4 of her wage every month. I pay for the majority of food shopping but she does get her own lunch daily and sometimes dinner if she's late. She pays for all her own bus transport. She's currently learning to drive and I pay for lessons as they were a birthday gift. Hopefully all that saving will give her a great start in a few years.

We have 2, one still at uni, we pay her rent and utilities, (£580pm) her minimum maintenance loan pays for her books/travel/ living.
The other is kind of still at uni... living at home with us doing a PGCE and costs nothing extra really as she has a STEM subject bursary for her own expenses. She helps with food and other bills, as well as walking the dog and helping out round the house.

Too bloody much.

Mine - 3rd year of Uni - gets 600 euros a month for rent and bills and her phone paid. She also has my lunch voucher card - worth about 160 euros a month - to buy food. We pay her tuition - though we're in Belgium and it's only about 800 euros a year. She has various PT jobs to cover her social life. Her bus pass costs 12 euros a year. Next year she seems determined to do a Masters abroad - UK or Germany seem favourite - Lord knows what this will cost me. Though she should be entitled to Home Fees for UK - and some element of student loans. This month I have spent an absolute bomb on the dentist though some of it should be reimbursable. I agreed to go halves on driving lessons - she's passed her theory test but not got round to booking the practical part. She got about a £1000 from her UK child tax fund thingy so that should more than cover her half.

DC1 (20) - 0 (has left home and is working. Knows I would help out will expenses if needed, though).

DC2 (18) - it varies, still at home so food money for college and driving lessons.

We have 3 at home, 2 are studying & the other an apprentice. They all contribute £100 pm to household costs. We don’t pay for anything else for them except for Christmas & Birthday gifts & the odd meal out. They all had around £12,000 in savings we had saved since they were babies. This was spent last year on cars, car insurance, post grad course fees & the rest into LISAs. So now they only cost us for food & utilities to which thry contribute. Clothes, travel & entertainment they fund themselves.
ETA We paid for all driving lessons & tests.

Wouldn't know where to start adding it all up! Buy nappies, wipes, snacks for when I look after DGC - DGC has their own cupboard! DD1 (mother of DGC) we give loads of food to as we buy in bulk - cheese, butter, coffee etc. DD2 still lives with us. We pay their phone usage but it's all under one contract. There's loads more I'd probably be shocked at how much but don't care, they are my children and I'll do what I can for them

PS they are both over 30 which may shock a lot of people

Nothing . He lives at home but is working and pays board /lodgings . I couldn’t afford to keep him .

About £200 each for food monthly. Increased water/energy use £50monthly each, subsidising health/dental care £50 monthly each - but variable due to varying chronic health needs. Driving lesson costs /car insurance and maintenance subsidy £100-500 per month each (the £500 is for one currently having lessons)

They sort out their own clothes, entertainment etc.

So in total monthly cost = £1,600 for all 3 of them

I don't know but my last one moved out a few months ago and he was expensive around the age of turning 18. I would guess about £200 in food, £50 utilities, £50 random things like haircuts or dentist, £50 clothes, £50 gym, £300 driving lessons, £350 therapy, £50 transport, So about £1100/month. But then there were occasional things like school trips, holidays with friends, new tech, so in reality probably more like £1400/month.

£550 rent every month, his maintenance loan covers his spending.
Random requests for money for the odd bill if it's more than he has.
£80 train fare home every term.
In total probably about £6000 pa.
Last night at 10.30 he asked us to tfr £30 if we could 🤨

My 20yo DD is at university and we pay her accommodation, which is about £6500 a year. DS is 23, got a job after graduating, and lives independently with his girlfriend.

DS1 - £1500 - mortgage and some bills ( bought as don't want to pay dead rent money. And driving lessons still hasn't passed 3rd test?!

DS2 - £260 + food and board and sometimes gym and extras so prob closer to £300. It will increase this year with uni costs.

This thread making me realise I might need to get a 2nd job when my DC get older 😂

How long does it take for people to learn to drive nowadays?? I did my test after 4 lessons and passed with full marks so I’m puzzled people are spending so much on lessons!

You have to book the theory test (10 weeks wait here).
Find an instructor with availability when you have (7 week wait here). Pass the theory, and then you can book the practical test (26 weeks wait here).
You have a 46% ish chance of passing. Most people pass on their 2nd or 3rd go. For every fail within 2 years of the theory test you go back to 26 weeks wait til you get another go at the practical.
After 2 years, start over, new theory test.
Driving test waits are currently being looked at as it is bloody ridiculous. A licence to print money.

I think 4 lessons in very unusual these days. I would think 20 is more of an average but 25-30 isn't unheard of either. Where I am each 60 minute lesson is about £90 but I'm not in the UK.

I wouldn’t want anyone driving after 4 hours of learning. Puzzled my arse. 🙄

DD is £90 for two hours in the UK she's got one today. Four lessons now I would think very unusual!