Is my Ex husband being unreasonable

[madameMscastle]

Last year i booked a show in another town for Sunday to Tuesday in the Feb half term with my then 15year old ds, they wanted to go and wanted to see the sights of the town. (cant rebook, otherwise i would do so.)

I have a court order on paper which states its my week for half term.

My ex planned to go away at Christmas but family illness meant they couldnt go so a month ago my other ds told me they have rebooked it for Febuary half term.

I asked my now 16year old ds if he knows anything and he said, "i heard them saying about rebooking but i dont know when".
I said "its half term, double checked the dates as we are away Sunday to Tuesday."

He did and he said they said " they are going Mon to Friday and dad said i have to pick which one as he wont come back for me."

Ds said he wants to do both.

Ex doesnt talk to me so wont be reasonable and any texts i send him will just be ignored.

So do i go away on my own OR take ds and drop him off at his dads holiday 1 hour and half away from where i live.

we are going down south and the holiday is North and i live in the middle so no dropping off on way back.

Is my ex being unresonable as to say you either come with me when i go or not at all.
If it was they other way round i would want my ds on holiday and would come back and get him or text my ex to at least meet half way (which i could do) but ex wont do that and wants ds to choose.
Ds would probably choose the hoilday with dad as all the family ie, (grandparents and cousins) are going.

I'd just drop him off. One 90 minute drive and everyone is happy!

Is there a train your 16 y/o can take? Doesn't sound like it's a great distance away from where you live.

Know its frustrating that ex is a dick but thats not DCs fault and its beyond his control. I wouldnt make him pick because gey you are both putting hin in a bad situation. Is just tell him that you know he wants to spend time with both of you and youre happy to drop him off. Its not a million miles away. Your kids is 16 it won't be long and he will have no interest in spending any time with either of you.

Only an hour and a half on from yours?

I'd take him!

Or look at trains as someone else said

If it was from Scotland to Cornwall it would be different but we drive 3 hours just to go away anyway,

I would take the moral high ground and drop your DS off after your trip. Its a pain but in the future your DS will always appreciate the parent who put themselves out for him and it will make your ex seems even more of a dick!!

Is there a coach/train option. You drop him off near you and your ex picks him up nearish him?

I would just lay the options out to DS and let him decide. Let him know his parents are ok with whatever he decides to do. He can either go on holiday with dad and family, go away with you or go away with you and then can be dropped off with dad before he heads home. At 16 he is old enough to decide what he wants to do in this case

As shitty as it is, I'd bite my tongue and drive him to the holiday with his dad. Otherwise DS will miss out on one of the things that he'd like to do and you'll end up being alone. Be the bigger person for your DS because your ex is an arse to expect the poor kid to choose.