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To think that life just hasn’t been the same ever since covid

267 replies

Youcantbeseriousmate · 12/02/2025 22:12

Does anyone feel the same?

It feels like something changed. Life carries on and there are sometimes good times, but it doesn’t feel the same, people don’t seem genuinely happy anymore.
When I think back to before covid, it seems like a different world

OP posts:
LillyPJ · 13/02/2025 05:20

RubyRedBow · 12/02/2025 22:40

Life isn’t the same. I’ve lost most of my social life because nobody does anything anymore.

'Nobody'?! Actually, I'm doing loads more now than I was before! There seem to be plenty of people out and about. Yesterday, I tried to book tickets for two concerts in April and they were both sold out.

malificent7 · 13/02/2025 05:23

I think it is more COL related.

Nettleteaser101 · 13/02/2025 05:29

I was thinking watching some programmes that were made during look down, all the 3 mitre distance and touching elbows and to be honest it gives me the creeps thinking back to that time.
It still annoys me when people stand close to you as covid is still about but I'm so glad we are back to normal. It was a horrible time.

LBFseBrom · 13/02/2025 05:30

That's because you are a few years older :-). Lockdown has been over for ages now, it's in the past. You'll be happy again, don't worry.

Guavafish1 · 13/02/2025 05:34

Since the Covid vaccine…. I’ve lost my hair, my skin is darker and my joints are destroyed

the vaccine has destroyed my life

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 13/02/2025 05:37

I feel like that time made me more appreciate of what we all have now.

Oblomov25 · 13/02/2025 05:57

I agree with op, it's changed, for the worse, more miserable, self centred. Bad.

Zanatdy · 13/02/2025 05:59

I don’t feel any different than I did pre covid. If anything i’m more grateful for normality and the fact I can go out and do things. I found lockdown incredibly isolating.

PurpleFlower1983 · 13/02/2025 06:06

For me, Covid highlighted that life is too short so I care less about my job since Covid and more about simpler things.

I think the shift in how things feel are not just Covid related. People are more openly racist, less tolerant of others and there are some seriously scary things going on politically at the moment.

Some things are worse though - behaviour in schools has taken a serious dive.

Differentstarts · 13/02/2025 06:13

Yanbu mcdonalds took away the breakfast bagel and never brought it back😭😭

Flopsy145 · 13/02/2025 06:20

I think lockdown marked a real change in how people view and trust governments so I feel like there is maybe a general feeling if distrust in government, I see a huge amount of posts on social media calling out politicians from every party. Before COVID I think there was a level of respect for government, i think that since COVID and party gate and watching how government handled it a lot of people have just lost that respect for them.

So maybe people just aren't happy because we don't trust our government, don't know what changes they'll bring in, don't know if they would protect us during crisis.

discdiscsnap · 13/02/2025 06:23

I found the Covid era quite easy (which I am very grateful for) but I've noticed people are far less sociable , wait times are so much longer for everything and everything feels a little bleaker since then.

GretchenWienersHair · 13/02/2025 06:24

Things definitely haven’t been the same. I feel more sad because life was so peaceful during that first lockdown, and people were generally nicer and more compassionate. It was like a taste of what “could be”, and now we’re expected to go back to normal and forget the good times. Everything feels shittier in comparison.

Goatinthegarden · 13/02/2025 06:26

I feel like lockdown is a distant memory in my personal life, but in my working life, there has definitely been a shift that hasn’t left.

I’m a teacher and the way kids (and most of us really) use technology really changed over lockdown…and that hasn’t gone back to normal. There’s a huge rise in problems with attention, anxieties, enjoyment in non-digital activities (sport, crafts, writing, etc), and the way they engage with one another. At the risk of sounding like a tin hat wearer, I honestly believe that I can walk into a room of 10 year olds and point out the ones who have too much screen time within five minutes of observation.

DeffoNeedANameChange · 13/02/2025 06:28

Cost of living
War in Ukraine and Gaza
Threat of AI
Trump

I think this idea of a "pre war period" is really starting to permeate through, especially if you watch/read/listen to a lot of news and current affairs. A huge amount of uncertainty and instability, alongside difficult financial times for most people.

westisbest1982 · 13/02/2025 06:29

Talulahalula · 12/02/2025 22:36

Surely, it’s the cost of everything which is the issue. I mean, costs are about 50% more than they were, I think. If everything cost what it did before the cost of living crisis, I would be much further ahead with things I need to do.

I agree. Most people have far less disposable income these days, so not doing as much enjoyable stuff as they used to. It’s wearing on the spirit.

GoldenLegend · 13/02/2025 06:29

Mademetoxic · 12/02/2025 23:00

Stop looking back into the past and focus on the future. We cannot do anything about the past.

We can learn from it.

CottageGoblin · 13/02/2025 06:32

I actually agree with the OP. It changed my work life for the worse.
Ive also went through some personal grief stuff, not directly related to lockdowns etc but it does muddy the waters and then I get in a whole “well if lockdown didn’t happen, then this other shitty thing would never have happened”

Lilactimes · 13/02/2025 06:33

RawBloomers · 12/02/2025 22:40

I think a lot of the change is down to the reduced economic outlook. Covid basically came along at the same time as the real hit from Brexit. We haven't recovered economically and there is no sign we're going to. That lack of economic optimism makes everything gloomier which, in turn, makes people less generous to each other, shorter tempered, more demanding, etc. And the massive hit to public services means there are less resources to deal with all the problems.

If we had some prosperity and economic optimism we'd see a change for the better in how people interact socially.

I totally agree with this.

Justalittlehandhold · 13/02/2025 06:33

Changeandchanges · 12/02/2025 22:17

I totally agree with you OP.
There has been a real fundamental change in society since COVID.

There has been a total breakdown in manners and respect for social norms.

I don’t find that Al all! Can you give examples?

Boredlass · 13/02/2025 06:33

I don’t see any difference but I didn’t notice much dusting Covid. I’m still bitter I was forced to work while my colleagues sat at home getting paid for nothing.

scalt · 13/02/2025 06:36

Suzuki76 · 12/02/2025 22:39

My life would have changed anyway - as a PP said, child is now 6 and not 1 - but I do feel a bit worried about the future. If something happened like another pandemic, a massive cyber attack or a war we were involved in, the chances of anyone listening to the government (whatever political party) are slim to none.

Exactly this. The government cried wolf on a massive scale, which dwarfed Tony Blair's legacy of "please believe in my weapons of mass destruction". I will never believe, respect or trust any government again, and I certainly won't believe in any "emergency" or "crisis" that the government tells us about for a long, long time, especially if they use it to impose restrictions. Remember the "emergency alerts" which were a novelty? I am opposed to them as a matter of principle, that they might be misused to impose a future state of fear. If it hadn't been for 2020, I might now be thinking they are a good idea.

The government crossed so many lines which we believed were uncrossable. In one day, they destroyed everything, and then used gaslighting, fearmongering and moving the goalposts to prolong lockdowns way beyond anything we could have imagined, throwing in increasingly absurd measures like taping up park benches (all that plastic waste). Nobody in government had the guts to say "actually, things are not as bad as we thought, lockdowns are doing more harm than good, and we don't want a second wave to happen in winter." They felt they had to maintain the myth "you will kill Granny if you enjoy yourselves at all". It seemed that between England, Scotland and Wales, there was a kind of competition to impose as much misery as they could.

And while we might be back to a "kind of normal" now, with a few remnants of "social distancing" signs still in place, there is still the Sword of Damocles hanging over us: all this could happen again. NONE of lockdown's cheerleaders have admitted to the multiple harms it caused, they're all saying "because of the pandemic". Although people are saying they probably wouldn't obey another lockdown because of Partygate (which was a useful deflection: the real scandal was not the parties, but the absurd rules, which the government knew were absurd; they were not worried about killing their grannies), I don't think it would take much fearmongering, possibly about a totally different threat, for the public to be pleading for lockdowns and state handouts again. The precedent of the government "saving them" has been set.

Yes, there was a virus. Yes, it probably killed people. But lockdown killed people as well. The "cure" was much, much worse than the virus, and I am now far more terrified of what future governments might do than any virus. I have not forgotten that the party which is now in power had NOT A SINGLE WORD to say about the harms of lockdowns: all they had to say was that lockdowns didn't go far enough, and they opposed easing of restrictions at every turn. They are having to deal with a huge financial mess, and they are keeping very quiet about how some of that was due to the lockdowns which they cheered on.

And I think that one massive change is that some people, including myself, are much more sceptical than before. It was obvious that the government was choosing carefully which scientists they allowed to speak and back up the cause of lockdown; any who dared to speak against lockdowns were silenced. You could watch BBC interviewers cutting people off if there was any hint of them deviating from the official narrative. I now do not believe anything I hear on the news; indeed, I avoid news at all, because now, I am much more aware that only one side of the argument is always presented. The people often referred to as "conspiracy theorists" are now feeling more justified than ever before. I myself attended several of the anti-lockdown marches. The BBC (the government's telescreen) either did not report on these at all, or said "a couple of hundred conspiracy theorists on Speaker's Corner". One march was about forty people wide, and literally miles long. I know, because I saw it with my own eyes. Easily hundreds of thousands of people, and not "conspiracy theorists", but ordinary people concerned for the future of their children, and what future governments might do to them.

Sunhatweather · 13/02/2025 06:37

I think it is a type of depressed disillusionment as we see just how rubbish and self-serving politicians are. Regardless of the outcome of Brexit, it left us aware of how politicians were able to waste tax payers money, lie and divide the public. Then the enriching of government contacts through PPE and the appalling response to managing COVID, where people were shamed and forced into taking an underprepared vaccine whether they wanted it or not, and we knew putting so many on furlough would create a massive economic hole and also create division between those that could stay at home comfortably and those who had to work.
Then politicians with big egos and dangerous toys created yet another war, creating even more financial hardship for the everyday person.
We see COL price rises, yet all of these large energy and utility companies making huge profits.
That’s before the focus on how uncontrolled immigration is wrecking our national identity and increasing all sorts of crime, because politicians are not listening to the people.
It all sticks in the craw, doesn’t it.

PerambulationFrustration · 13/02/2025 06:37

It's te cost of living that's changed.
I think most people are over covid but people are struggling with paying their bills and funding work.

linelgreen · 13/02/2025 06:50

What I do think has changed are the age group in early twenties. As a line manager I have never had as many issues with staff who can't handle workload and go off sick as they say they "need space". This rarely happened pre Covid.