Have you ever taken a job with a brilliant income even though you were unsure you could do it?

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I’m in a position where I’ve been offered an in house legal role paying close to 100k with bonuses on top. I currently earn 74k which I thought was my ceiling really, at least for a few years. This is also outside London. I’m a few years qualified and have worked with some good firms. On paper I look pretty good.

But since having my child and becoming a single parent (though co parent very well) my confidence has gone. I don’t know if I could do the job well in practice or whether I would cope with it. I feel a bit of a shell of who I once was and like I’m not really deserving of this. I think if I went for it I would have to try my best to wing parts of the job at first, is this a silly thing to do? I just don’t know anymore what is best

They know you , they've seen your work - they know you are capable of the job .
You just need to believe you are capable - sounds like other life stuff has had an impact on your confidence. They wouldn't offer it if they didn't know you could do it !
Also ,.. I bet no man would doubt his ability like this !!
Enjoy your new role .

@Thistooshallpass. thank you, I’m just not sure if I’ve over sold myself. There’s a lot of stuff I’ve done maybe once or twice but the impression is I can run with these things and I’m not sure I can

You haven’t oversold yourself, this is just imposter syndrome. Go for it. Of course there will be things you’re not sure of but build your support network, ask for a mentor etc to help with this. Your confidence will grow. You know more than you think and have more expertise than you realise. Enjoy the extra income and the ways this will make your life easier in other ways and it will balance out.

You can do it: Please accept the job - reframe the opportunity as doing something for you and your child. Think how much better your lives would be and where you could then go on from there. Women tend to be too rational AND emotional about these things. Just go for it!!

Best advice I ever had - don't ever accept a role that you are fully 100% qualified for.

They've accepted you can do the job - do it learn. Keep on challenging yourself. You'll only add to your skills.

Do it! Totally imposter syndrome.

I previously worked with an in house legal director quite closely on that kind of salary - he was SHIT - we lost so much money because of crappy, completely illogical decisions he made or just 'missing' emails. Yet still everyone adored him because of the confidence he carried and he got promoted 😂 He's my daily reminder when I feel a bit of imposter syndrome that I'll never be as bad as that (and neither will you!!!) and companies can afford the odd mistake for people they like - and they like you!