Being spoke down to at work by someone younger

[Lu889]

Aibu to be annoyed about being spoke down to by someone who is younger than me? I feel embarrassed as she actually does have a higher qualification than me (childcare) but she is 19 and im nearly 28 and im a mum. She is very short with me sometimes for no particular reason. I feel like she thinks im not competent, purely based on the qualification aspect, that's the only thing I can think of. I have also worked there longer than her

The age is irrelevant. If she's rude that's not great, but makes no difference if shes 19 or 49

If you have a problem with how you are being treated then fair enough but you shouldn't consider age unless the other person is being ageist towards you.

If they aren't then ironically you are being ageist

No one should be talking down to anyone. However, you seem to be thinking that your age and being a mum means you have higher status. If she's picking up on this she may think you're not respecting her and her role and qualification because she's young, and may be reacting by putting her big boots on with you. If it were me I'd make a point of ensuring I afforded her all due respect and see if that helps. If it doesn't then you need to keep note if when she speaks to you disrespectfully and if necessary take it through the proper channels.

Call it out in front of everyone in a calm way “why do you speak so rudely to me colleague?” “Please stop speaking to me in such a disrespectful manner colleague”

if you keep calling it out in a calm and respectful way, you will give her no where to go and she will be embarrassed

I would do nothing more than contact the dance/activity group now and explain that you will not be taking the child home and if the child is left alone at the group it's their problem and not yours and one of the group leaders will have to take the child home, which if that happens I think you will find the child want be allowed to attend anyway, how does child get to group to start with someone must drop them off

Are you actually being spoken down on or is it that you think that because you have an issue taking feedback / direction from someone that is younger than you and you're blowing it up in your head?

Is she being rude, or are you expecting her to be in some way deferential to you because you're older and a mum? On the surface of it, YABU- your choice to have children and your age has no bearing on your work.

You're on the wrong thread.

That's what I was thinking too. Bet she is not being rude at all but you just don't like that someone younger than you is more qualified.

Perhaps if you spoke grammatically correct English you would command more respect.

Why does she think you are not competent? Are you?

What happened that she spoke to you in that way? For example was it to do with you dealing with a child? Or something else?

Even though she has a higher qualification doesn't mean you can speak to you in an undermining way... some people like feeling superior. Ignore her as best as you can even though it's probably not ideal.