To not want to be out all the time?

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My 4 year old just can’t be in the house it seems. This has been a problem since forever and I’ve probably contributed to it because I’ve gone alone with it but I’m fed up now. He’s been at preschool 9-3, come back and he just gets bored and starts acting like a complete dick for want of a better turn of phrase. AIBU here?

It sounds like he enjoys the structure of pre-school, and then doesn't know what to do with himself, so resorts to annoying siblings and general silliness. My GS
was like that at that age.

He needs structure... as you pick him up, let him know what's next. 'We're going to have a snack, and then the legos are out on the table ready.' or some such. Another one is to let them vacuum the hallway, or do some other adult chore that they can easily manage, even if it's not to your standards. I think as long as he knows what is next then he won't resort to silliness.

Good luck. I had to make a list of little chores for my gs at this age, but he was brilliant at it, and would focus his energy better. The pots and pans drawer, the cutlery drawer, re-arranging the shoes in the front hall closet.... little jobs like that. He had a real sense of pride when completed, and it kept him busy.

Lego worked everytime with my son.
Mind you, I would get on the floor too and have contests on who could make the best...whatever.
He liked the interaction, and I became brilliant at making Lego structures.😃

I am a very structured person, it's not for everyone but I tried to do this everyday:
Something crafty
Something educational
Something physical.
Each one could be approx an hour,