To ask what a rebound actually is

[Wishiwas18againn]

So my ex is now with somebody new, within weeks after our relationship failed. They were friends before hand and went on nights out etc together amongst other people. It all just seems to have moved so fast, involving the children etc. is impossible he grieved the relationship before he started it with her

A rebound is when someone misses having a partner and just goes for the first available person as a sort is stand in.

It's not a rebound if they had a thing/flirtation going with that person before the previous relationship ended. That's called monkey barring.

Well my husband has been cheating on me so my view point men cheat.
Possibly cross over?
Or it's a man thing, they seem to move on fast regardless of the train wreck they leave behind

There's rebound relationships and then there are emotional affairs.

He may well have been in an EA and seen this coming and chosen to break off with you first before starting a public relationship. However, he was ready to move on immediately.

Sounds more like he had emotionally checked out prior to the actual breakup. Made sure he had a new one lined up and ready.

I think the main thing, is that his current relationships are no longer your issue.

It’s up to you to know if you are in a rebound relationship, not someone else.

My guess is that he was into her during your relationship.

Best thing for you in relation to this situation is knowing that you're well clear. And leave it there, don't try to understand why, don't try to compare him to how you're doing it, or how you think a normally person would handle it. You'll never sort that car crash out in your head.

Just accept you can't influence his decision making, and let him make his own way.

His train set.