Hurt friends didn’t wish me a happy birthday?

[millkenna]

I have a group of 4 friends and me. We’ve been away together, stayed at each others houses, meet up every few months (we live in different cities so we have to plan in advance).

Anyway I posted about my birthday on my social media, they all looked at the stories and not one sent a message to say - happy birthday. I feel a bit crushed.

I’m not expecting a card, presents, a phone call or anything like that. Just them taking 30 seconds out of their day to say Happy Birthday. As I make sure I always do for them.

Is it today? There’s still time if so.

Some people will tell you it's not a big deal etc but it hurts my feelings if close friends ignore my birthday.

Yeah I get you OP I’d be put out by it

Happy birthday OP 🎂

It's a bit odd that none of them has said anything at all. It is hurtful, but hopefully they are just normally busy and will catch up tonight

I cant think of any friends that I've been on holiday with that wouldn't get me a card and present for my birthday (and I for theirs) let alone just a message! These people are not your friends. But also - come off social media for your own mental health.

I'm not sure why you posted about your birthday though?

Happy Birthday 🥳

Really, something this trivial has upset you? Why, I rarely get birthday messages on SM from friends and it honestly doesn’t bother me, we all have busy lives and at the end of the day it’s only a birthday!

You might get birthday greetings tonight

Sorry to clarify my birthday was yesterday - thanks for the birthday wishes

But what’s trivial to you isn’t trivial to someone else. And what would upset you, might not upset me. It doesn’t mean you can’t be upset because I’ve deemed it trivial.

And if you don’t care about birthdays that’s absolutely fine. But you should appreciate that to some people it means something.

I think it means something to me because it shows that someone is willing to make the effort of taking 1-2 minutes out of their day for you - once a year. And that person being someone who has your number, you go out with, you’ve been to each others houses and stayed there, you’ve been on holiday with etc - not someone who you’re friendly with at work but don’t see outside.

I didn’t just put up a huge post of “ITS MY BIRTHDAY!!”

I reposted a birthday cake someone kindly bought me and another one of the meal I had. Pretty standard stuff that I see most people post.

We don’t usually do cards and presents unless it’s a big birthday so there was definitely no expectations for that.

It just would have meant something to me for at least one of them to acknowledge it with a quick message.

Yeah you're right they're not your friends if they haven't even bothered to message you. But also stop checking who has been looking at your social media stories etc. It's not healthy. Social media is a mood killer.