For those of us who have ventured into OLD we know it has changed the rules of modern dating and how it works. It is difficult to navigate and can be quite brutal. Yes it gives you access to so many more people, but because of that people move on quicker and the competition is fierce.
I have to say I feel I have had success with it, and have met a decent guy. But it did take time, effort and emotional resilience and effort. I will now appear on OLD threads to provide a few comments about what worked, and didn't work for me.
I do wonder though about some of the posters who come on and say "this is why I'm pleased I've been married for 20 years"- smug and unhelpful, but especially the ones who give advice based on the dating scene of 20 years ago "I don't know why not replying to a message isn't a big deal, in my day they'd phone you once before the date and that's the only time you'd hear from them" -Great, but the behaviour expectation, manners and tactics have changed.
Many of my friends who divorce after long relationships and re-enter the dating scene find the adjustment to how things are difficult. AIBU to find the long-term married, never having OLD giving advice on how to navigate it a bit unhelpful?
Yes ask questions, yes comment. But giving advice on something you have never experienced, knowing that things are different isn't helpful.