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For not responding to every snap of my friends baby girl?

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lalabugirl · 10/02/2025 08:50

since the day my good friend got her first litte girl i swear, ive been recieving snapchats almost daily, about milestones and baby just doing baby stuff. baby is 1 years old. Im done with comments, I have myself a daughter who is 6 years, but i have never spammed my friends with pictures or videos of her unless it was her grandparents that wanted updates. I do know myself even how much i love my own child i understand that she is not that interesting and special to everyone else besides me and her dad n family. And i honestly feel the same about other peoples child and babies, but sometimes some mums forget about that. I mean yea sure a picture or video once a while is nice. But it have reached the point where i stopped replying to baby milestones and stuff and when her child get the flu and is sick. She sends snaps about that to.

«Like yea your kid will get sick looots of time once they start in kindergarten its not that uncommon» i think to myself. I think i miss when her snaps wans’t just 99% focused on her baby. Or when she sends me a snap and then i don’t reply and then she send them on snap messages. Feels a bit overwhelming to me. Like she wants my attention trough her baby? I may be wrong, but even tough her LO is lovley i don’t want our frinedship to be based on her child. Since im a mom myself i do try to be understanding but as said, even as a mom i get tired of baby talk and daily updates and videos/pictures. Maybe because myself never over talked about my baby to my friends, then i can’t really relate besides having a child to. This may have camed a bit blunt out..

btw im from norway so my english is not the best

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lalabugirl · 11/02/2025 02:35

fitzwilliamdarcy · 10/02/2025 15:36

You’ll probably have to tell her, at which point she’ll likely take offence and you won’t hear from her at all anymore.

I had a couple of friends like this and it was like they thought I was the third parent. I eventually had to gently ask them to stop and both sacked me off as a friend as they were outraged by the request.

YANBU though, it’s maddening and I can’t understand why she thinks you’re this invested!

@fitzwilliamdarcy
and i def don’t wanna be 3-4-5 or 6 parent.
I mean if i told her to stop it dosn’t mean she never has to send me ever a pic of her child but, to relax a bit with all the daily updates and photos and long videos that no one really cares about. It def feels like they are in my life everyday by her snaps. I happy for her and her LO but il not THAT invested in her babys daily life no

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Chuchoter · 11/02/2025 05:44

'Hi Lottie, I'm glad Lottie Jnr is doing well but I cannot respond to every photo that you send me throughout the day! I have my own child/family/work and if was to look at and reply to all of your messages as well as ones from other people I would not get anything done! I'm asking everyone to just send one photo a week of their child/family. Love Betty xxxx

Zusammengebrochen · 11/02/2025 05:50

Every time she sends a picture you must type: 'System error - this account has reached maximum image capacity. Please delete at least 20000 existing similar images to continue receiving pointless similar images.'
OK, maybe that's too honest.....🤣......just block her?
Edit....or use @Chuchoter's much more sensible reply (directly above). 👍

lalabugirl · 11/02/2025 06:39

@Zusammengebrochen bahaha😆 i mean it is tempting to be that bold. I wish i could block but she also a close friend, but in future i guess is matter of time if our frienship is based on her child, im already dreading the tough of her having another baby bcs she wants another and having to see the same shi n updates again and even more😆 like it isn’t bad already. But makes me think she seeking attention trough her baby on snap, but if i was blunt with her then there is better ways to do that than spamming with unessesary milestones and videos/photos of baby

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menopausalmare · 11/02/2025 06:46

Tedious. I would respond to one in every 10 and if she queries, be honest.

lalabugirl · 11/02/2025 06:47

@Chuchoter
I do feel like she thinking why im not feeling bad and reply with pooor little angel and sendig hugs and kisses when she sends update about her sick child. Or other stuff, But i do like your advice, bcs yea i also have enough with my own stuff, so i don’t priotize that on someone elses child. Even if people tell you that it litteraly takes 1 sec to click on heart emoji on their pics n videos i can’t be bothered to do that everytime.it also feels a bit pointless.

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MyspecialMug · 11/02/2025 19:35

I'm muting you on SC, because as cute as your child is, I'm unable to reply to every pic you spam me with, because I'm busy with my life and my kids.
I'm amazed how you get the time to take all the pics. I'm sure you understand being a mum yourself.

CandyCane457 · 11/02/2025 20:18

I think you’re right to ignore them, it sounds painful!!!

I have some friends who regularly send baby pics and I always reply with a cute pic of my cat.

lalabugirl · 12/02/2025 06:24

@MyspecialMug no bcs i Wonder how she has all the time to document everything. And thinking people care or want to know everything like im good. I know people really love their kids but for some it come out as an obbsession and even worse when they expect everyone else to care about every little thing little juana did..

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