to be annoyed she sent her kid to the party after she'd vomited

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Five year old birthday party, most kids stayed but one parent asked if she could drop her child off, I said this was fine. She was a bit rowdier than most of the other kids and a bit rude, pushing and taking huge fistfuls from the buffet etc, but nothing too major.
Towards the end offered her some birthday cake and she said 'my mummy says I can't have any because I vomited last night.'
AIBU to think she should have kept her at home?!

I would agree with you, BUT I wouldn't hate on mum for sending kid to party. She should have told you from the get go.

I'd be pretty frustrated with this. It was selfish of her to send her, especially without giving you the heads up/opportunity to decide whether you were happy for her to come in the circumstances. I have an immunocompromised child (stomach bugs can land them in the ER) and this sort of thing drives me batty.

Depends why, my dd is intolerant to certain ingredients in cake toppings and sweets so would be violently sick but not ill, she wasn't allowed cake unless I'd checked it though if her dad took her out he often gave her things that made her sick!

Sorry to hear about your child @falalalalaaaaaaaa I agree, I just feel it's selfish. I don't have an immunocompromised child bit I do have a younger baby at home too plus there's all the other kids at the party to think about!

Ahhh I’d be raging, it’s very entitled when parents disregard others because they don’t wang their kid to miss out ever.
only think I can think might seem ok is if it was one vom which she bounced back from, seemed fine after etc etc AND told you so at least you could make sure she has clean hands when she’s diving into the buffet.
the reason it probably makes me so mad is when my son was about 1 another parent brought their kid (about 9 at the time) round to my house looking pretty grim and after about an hour announced he’d had a terrible sickness and diarrhoea bug. Roll on the next day my child was incredibly ill which went on forever, he was passing white foam 🙈
anyhow, rant over, parent is taking the piss as far as I’m concerned.
id actually go as far as saying the mum ‘I’m a bit miffed you didn’t give me the heads up your kid had been sick the night before, I would have at least kept an eye on her hand washing if I had of known’

@mitogoshigg I hadn't thought of something like that, I hope that's the case TBH, would make me feel less queasy about the idea we're all now harbouring something utterly grim thanks to this little girl's repeated fisting of the party snacks

YANBU - stomach viruses are rife at the moment and I would be raging if someone sent their child who had vomited the night before and would be calling them out on it.

I just gathered on the school run that the girls mum (who is very nice to be fair) was actually out of town all weekend on a work trip, and the dad was in charge of the kids (they have two).
So sounds like he made the decision to drop her off anyway - probably just decided he wasn’t going to pass up on a break from solo childcare….😤

I definitely am tempted to say something @Flipslop @SENMUM959 but probably too much of a wimp so will just silently seethe 🤣

If we do all come down with a vomiting bug however, I will be RAGING!