To ask for some tips regarding my time

[irishchick93]

Hi all,

I feel like I'm constantly chasing my tail.

I have 2 kids. One school age. One 15months at home full time!
I don't work but need 8 hours per week for my degree which I do at home.

Partner works long hours far away from home away from 6.45am-7.45pm mon-fri and Saturday 8am-3pm

Basically my elderly mum has got out of hospital unfit for home so has moved in with me I have an extension with a little kitchenette and ensuite in a house we recently bought so it's perfect for her.

She has a private carer comes in for personal care in the morning for 30minutes and an NHS one in evenings for personal care. Not very mobile.

The meals and medication etc are up to me at the minute for the next few months until better mobility gained.

I'm happy with this arrangement. Would never settle with her at home alone 40miles away.

However, I am looking for tips to help with my time. Surely with one child away to school 6hours daily and only one more at home. Mum doesn't require all my time but I feel like I am always chasing my tail and trying to keep house clean for carers coming in and out and entertaining baby, doing homework, cooking, washing.

I'm sure people work full time and have more to do so I'm just looking some time saving tips.

Thanks so much

I would suggest trying to sync your mum’s meal and medication needs with your 15 month old’s mealtimes if that’s possible so you’re doing one meal for everyone at lunchtime and medication at the same time.

Then, when your DC is napping you can have a list of a couple of chores to do during that time so you’re not interrupted and you won’t have your mum to sort out hopefully.

Thank you. Tip noted :)

Former carer here, please don't worry about keeping the house clean "for the carers". They don't mind and don't expect to walk in somewhere spotless. Normal amount of living clutter is fine. The vast majority of the houses we see belong to very unwell people living solitary lives. We don't expect to walk into a Buckingham palace every visit.

Thank you ;) noted

Bring the partner in on it for a start.
He's at home 11 hours a day and, as he is able to work, I doubt his arms are broken.

If he moans, point out he'd have to do it all if he were single.