Work friend blocked me on WhatsApp. Would you ask why?

[JuvenileBigfoot]

I messaged a work friend yesterday with a question. She messaged back. All fine.

Today I noticed she's blocked me.

Do I ask why when I see her on Tuesday? Or just assume she has her reasons and go on as normal?

I'm baffled!

Sorry, for some reason I didn't see there were 3 pages. My bad. Ask her. Its the only way you'll know for sure.

Op if you know you haven't done owt stop worrying and enjoy your Sunday. Maybe her phone is broke or something. Maybe she has secret anxiety and blocked everyone. The possibilities are endless.

I’m sure you have. Like I said, people are different. Some may class you as a friend from very early on and some won’t. What I have witnessed in the work place however, is no matter how friendly some colleagues may seem, a lot of them do like to separate work from their personal lives and many have friends outside of work who they have more in common with and socialise with. I’ve also witnessed cliques in the workplace where colleagues will socialise with some outside the work place and not others.

If she's a friend, why wouldn't you just ask?!: "Hey, i tried to send you a picture yesterday and it wouldn't go through. Have you blocked me?!"
Otherwise, assume she doesnt wany contacting and leave it.

Thank you. I do worry too much!

Just ask her at work on Monday. You're overthinking it!

Same here! I doubt it's you from what you've said. I think you're worrying about the impression you've made at work maybe and it's manifesting as worrying about this. Don't overthink, easier said than done I know!!

Depending on where I go a walk in don't have a signal, my messages don't come through and sit as one tick. Not sure about the pic though. My DH had this weird thing with his WhatsApp after an update where his pic was blank and he got no notifications. His settings had changed and he had no idea why. I wouldn't worry about it I'm sure it's fine.

OP I also over think things and this would also have me worrying.

However - from what you’ve said there’s absolutely nothing that you’ve done wrong, so I very much doubt this is a “you” problem and more likely either something to do with her phone, WhatsApp settings, or more of a blanket decision about messages in general,
not directed at you.

I’m trying to recognise that often the things I worry about, that don’t seem to have a “rational explanation” often actually do have a rational explanation, I just hadn’t thought of
it or I was too busy getting in a flap! I’m sure this is the same.

OP has said they are work friends and regularly message outside of work.

If this was the first time OP had messaged her then I would agree but they are friends who regularly message.

Yes I’m very aware of all that and have read all of op’s updates. All I’m saying is from experience, that doesn’t still mean they are are both as close as op may think they are. I have messaged work colleagues outside of work and they have messaged me too. I later found out the same colleagues would happily have stabbed me in the back. Since then I have never classed any of my work colleagues as friends no matter how friendly they may seem

I was also in a work WhatsApp group in my last work place and there used to be all sorts of non work related shit getting written in the group outside of work hours. I used to mute it because it was annoying and irrelevant.

Why do people write ‘none’ when they mean ‘non’?

If you really are quite friendly and close then I probably would ask, in a semi jokey way. Also you could volunteer that you were sorry if it was a bad time etc.
But if you don't really know her that well just don't say anything.

Pretend you haven't.noticed. Carry on as normal.

You’re overthinking. Numerous reasons for her photo to not be visible including her changing settings, her phone may have died & WhatsApp can be odd when that happens even when restarting. She may have deleted WhatsApp to avoid her mother.

In the kindest way, I doubt it’s anything to do with you

What you messaged her sounds completely normal. Some people on MN have odd ideas about being friends with work colleagues. I suspect the reason this has happened has nothing to do with you at all. I wouldn't say anything to her about it, and continue as usual.

This.

i don’t mind at all, but others do and draw a hard line of not accepting questions.

My MIL accidentally blocked me on whatsapp recently. She messages me fairly incessantly and whilst it was welcome respite i did have to tell DH to tell her to unblock me. I’d be more inclined to think this was accidental and not mention it.

„Pretend you haven't.noticed. Carry on as normal.“

I agree

Thank you for this. You sound just like me! I'm a huge overthinker. I am starting so suspect I have undiagnosed ADHD having read a lot about the different behaviours in women. One of which being this!

I'm really trying to get better at rationalising, but it's hard!

Oh ffs 🤣🤣🤣🤣

The whole of mumsnet could guess all day but you still won’t know unless you simply ask her!

You get an answer? I'm invested in this now!