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Colleague wants to get rid of me

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Mamyte1 · 09/02/2025 14:50

I work mostly from home but go to work from the warehouse once a week. There’s a woman who works in the warehouse ( manual job) who openly admitted she doesn’t like her job.

Recently, I finished my degree and she started asking if I’d be changing jobs. The same day, she asked me again why I wasn’t looking for a new job since I have a degree now. I explained that the job market isn’t great and that I just finished my studies while juggling work and a childcare (lone parent) so I need time to recover. She then said, "Well, you should be looking for a job sooner rather than later."
She kept pushing, asking about my plans, if I have a strategy, and generally acting a bit too interested in my future. It felt very bizarre. I asked if she was looking herself for a job and she said no. When we were closing warehouse, she was saying that the place is depressing and she won't be here soon and it will be a '' bye bye''. I think it was a subtle and manipulative blackmailing. As last time when someone else in her position left,I was covering that role for 3 months and also doing some of my work. She knows that it was difficult for us, so she sort of was trying to say..well you might be doing it again as it will be ''bye bye'' from her.

For context, her role is responsible for a small part of the company’s operations, while mine covers everything else except her area. Sometimes, I even help her when her workload increases. Neither of our positions are managerial.

Knowing her personality, I wouldn’t be surprised if she started stirring things up to push me out ( she already tried to cause trouble before).The company is small, and we don’t have HR, so I don’t have much protection if she tries anything.

Has anyone dealt with a similar situation?

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 09/02/2025 18:59

A warehouse? With boxes?

Stick her in one and tape it up.

”Bye bye!”

Honestly, some people are just plain mental.

Cerialkiller · 09/02/2025 19:23

She openly hates her job. She could just be projecting what she would do in your position. Or trying to live vicariously through you.

That's a generous way to interpret it. It's still a weird way to do it though. If she hasn't expressed a dislike for you before then I wouldn't assume she wants rid of you. Just that she expects you to be gone to greener pastures asap.

Arlanymor · 09/02/2025 19:23

Is this a second thread?

UncharteredWaters · 09/02/2025 19:49

Do you think she wants your role? She feels you’re moving on?

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/02/2025 19:51

I think she's probably jealous that you have a choice but doesn't understand that you can't just get a job instantly. I wouldn't worry about it.

Mamyte1 · 09/02/2025 19:55

Yes, sorry second post. The Aibu think was not suitable to put as it is work related. Yes, I think she wants my job and line manager won't do anything if she becomes a bully as she doesn't want her to go as well, we don't want to cover her role for months as management doesn't rush to find replacement. Basically she doesn't want a job in warehouse, she got a masters degree in a I would say quite reputable field ( architecture)but haven't done anything to get internship or work experience in last 2.5 years. So she always tries to stir something , wants an easy way to get a job ,so she doesn't have to work in warehouse.

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Irridescantshimmmer · 09/02/2025 19:57

If she starts the Spanish Inquisition with you again, ask her why she's asking you so many personal questions which have nothing to do with her.

She needs to keep her nose i her own business.

Greenfencebrowntree · 09/02/2025 19:58

This isn't that deep and it's not about you. She doesn't like her job, she wants to leave, and - in passing, as she doesn't care who knows how much she hates the place - she's encouraging you to do the same. This is the "let's all flee the sinking ship, last one out can organise reunion drinks" type colleague. I don't really see what you think she is otherwise trying to do. I mean, she's telling you to leave, not trying to get you to stay. But she's not responsible for your decisions. Stay if you want to (and accept that others might leave), and leave if you want to. It sounds like you expect her to stay in a job she hates, to save you from the possibility of having to cover for her.

Verlaine · 09/02/2025 20:00

Hang on a minute. The woman has asked if you will be getting a better job then pretty much explained it’s because she hates it there - so can’t fathom why you’d stay. You’ve extrapolated that into a future prediction of her bullying you and turning everyone against you and your manager not caring. It’s not happened. You need to relax a bit!

Mamyte1 · 09/02/2025 20:11

Well she did say before that she would be interested in my job and she asked few months before my studies where about to be finished,that if I will straight away look for another job after studies. I think she was expecting me to finish studies and straight away look for another job so she can get my job but now she was left disappointed that I am staying but I have never told her I would leave. I only said at some point in future I will look for better paid job as I won't be able to afford living as lone parent. Sort of bulling already happened before when she tried to load part of her job on me, which I am not supposed to do,only when needed bit not as everyday task. And then she was upset and telling everyone that I am not helpful. That job used to be 3 days a week, they extended to 5 so she can have more time for tasks and she still tried to load portion of her everyday job on me.

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converseandjeans · 09/02/2025 21:29

I think she was hoping that you would look for something else once you qualified. So she is sounding you out. I don't think she is bullying you really.

Why is she working in a warehouse if she has a masters in design/architecture? Nothing wrong with working in a warehouse but it just seems to have nothing to do with the qualifications.

Verlaine · 09/02/2025 21:35

Erm, what degree do you have with that writing?

MammaTo · 09/02/2025 21:42

It sounds to me like she’s trying to get you to look for a job in the field you trained for. If she has studied to masters level in something but remained working in the warehouse, she might feel like she’s wasted her studies and doesn’t want you to make the same mistakes. I don’t think it sounds like she wants you out in a vindictive way.

LlamaDharma · 09/02/2025 21:55

I don't understand why you think she's trying to get rid of you when it's her that wants to leave?

Idontjetwashthefucker · 09/02/2025 22:33

Verlaine · 09/02/2025 21:35

Erm, what degree do you have with that writing?

Rude, maybe English isn't OPs first language

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