Coparenting dispute

[Anonymousgirl1997]

I'm at risk of losing my job due to taking time off of work when my child is unwell and can't go to nursery, am I being unreasonable in asking the father to possibly take a day off if our child can't go to nursery when they're unwell? I'm not asking him to take loads of time off and risk his job, just the one off while I get a bit of good grace with my employment again?

He has equal responsibility for your child. So no, it's not unreasonable for him to take the odd day off when the child is ill.

What's your routine/schedule with the other parent? Usually whoever's 'day' it is, is the one who takes the time off (that's how it works for me and my DH with his ex).

You can ask but he doesn't have to

He usually only has her 2 days/nights a week, which is why I've never asked him to do so as she usually always seems to get poorly when she's with me as she's with me most of the time. The only reason I'm even asking him now is because my job is at risk, otherwise it wouldn't be an issue at all

Sorry, I've replied but in a separate comment, I'm new to mumsnet hahahah

You're not unreasonable to ask him but you can't force him if he's unwilling unfortunately. Is he usually reasonable when it comes to co-parenting?

You're not unreasonable to ask but you can't force him unfortunately.

Well he only has her 2 days/nights a week, he pays child support, but essentially when I mentioned possibly taking a day off if our child needs it because I can't now or I'm risking my job, he's told me that its my fault anyway because I don't need to work, whereas if I don't work and only have what he pays in CS and what I get from the government, it's not enough to be able to make a nice life for our daughter, she'd be stuck inside all the time apart from going to the park and free activities outdoors so to speak, which yes there's nothing wrong with that, I just want to be able to provide more for our child.