I'm fortunate to rarely be ill and I've only ever had one day off a year or something around that.
I'm being bullied by my manager and suffering work-related stress. I haven't slept properly in a fortnight, I feel sick and anxious constantly, I've been reduced to tears a few times by her and the role.
I'm waiting on a start date in my new role luckily, provided I pass referencing. I have to give my most recent reference so obviously this role, it's in the Civil Service.
I'm scared that manager could give me a bad reference. I haven't had any disciplinary or anything like that and I'm not on probation but I just constantly worry.
It still could be a couple of weeks yet and I don't know how much longer I can cope with it. I'm a trainee in a role, I've got an additional assessment on Monday where she's going to test me on various jargon and I'm revising this weekend but I just feel so panicky.
I wish I could be signed off with stress but I'm scared that will affect my future employment because as I say I don't yet have the reference as far as I know. So I feel stuck. Even though it's likely only a few more weeks at most I don't know if I do it. I take Kalms and sleeping tablets, I can't cope with the insomnia and constant panicky feeling anymore.
Ive documented every incident with this manager but have never gone through this procedure before. I mean in previous jobs when younger ive made informal complaints of bullying but that was in small private companies, never in something like the Civil Service.
I dislike how we're essentially punished for suffering with mental health issues and how it can affect references. Any advice?