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Poppyseeds79 · 2025-02-08T01:33:48+00:00

Have you? Would you? Very easy to say absolutely not! If your relationship is solid I think? Possibly less easy if it's on the rocks, on the ground, dead in the water for years possibly? Nobody wants to actively be a cheat? But if it's just no longer 'happening', and you are sick to the very back teeth! And you literally can't afford to split... Would you cheat?

FancyExpert · 08/02/2025 07:23

Infidelity is never the right option.

Lowcarbonated · 08/02/2025 07:27

It's an interesting question because people rush to say they would never ever do it but clearly given the number of people who have affairs lots would. I think lots of people can say never but life and relationships are complex and messy and when they find themselves in a situation they might well not be so sanctimonious about marriage as they thought.

Edit to add I've had a number of good friends who have needed up in affairs with married men. Not the type of people I'd ever expect to do so either. I don't really judge them too hard because the situations were incredibly complex.

LouH1981 · 08/02/2025 07:29

Nah. Sounds like way too much hassle.
Already got my hands full with the one I married, without getting involved with another.

MotherCariesChickens · 08/02/2025 07:31

Lowcarbonated · 08/02/2025 07:27

It's an interesting question because people rush to say they would never ever do it but clearly given the number of people who have affairs lots would. I think lots of people can say never but life and relationships are complex and messy and when they find themselves in a situation they might well not be so sanctimonious about marriage as they thought.

Edit to add I've had a number of good friends who have needed up in affairs with married men. Not the type of people I'd ever expect to do so either. I don't really judge them too hard because the situations were incredibly complex.

Edited

The OP hasn't clarified if it's a married person cheating or a person outside the marriage cheating with the married person?

Either way it's wrong but the motivations may be different.

If a single person is cheating with a married person then that's only one scenario.

Mummyoflittledragon · 08/02/2025 08:09

Yes. But I didn’t know he was married. And had 4 children. I was young and naive. Otherwise, no. I was so shocked. It was just sex. And not very good sex.

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 08/02/2025 08:14

No, I would focus on getting myself in a financial position so that I could leave and be free to make other choices.

LeahMcx · 17/03/2025 06:56

I'm in a sexless relationship but kind of flirting with a colleague, it's hard because I do find myself thinking I'd love it. Don't know what to do.

RhaenysRocks · 17/03/2025 07:01

thicklysettled · 08/02/2025 01:57

I would. My husband has no libido (and no interest in doing anything to remedy the situation) and after years of practically pleading for sex, I'm done. Actively pursuing someone.

Why not leave? He might not be interested in sex but you'll be lying to him, using joint assets to fund the affair, taking your emotional focus elsewhere. I've cheated and been cheated on. Seen it from all sides. Just find a way to end it and then you can enjoy all the benefits of freedom to pursue whoever you like. If you ARE determined to cheat, please at least do it with someone single.