Sudden sadness after husbands vasectomy

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I know I don't want any more children and nor does Dh but the fact he's just had a vasectomy which we both discussed and agreed was right has made the reality of no more babies hit hard.

Youngest of 3 is only 4 months and we are definitely done but just the thought of never having another baby or pregnancy is quite upsetting.
I keep thinking of baby names I'd choose if I had another knowing I never will.
I didn't think I would feel this way but I do feel really sad that that's it.

Understandable, on an emotional level it is final and likely mean no more babies
You’re processing that finality, it probably feel akin to a loss. Which in an unconscious level it is (loss of potential)

How old are you both? (You and your DH) @nextplace ?

Ooops, sorry for quoting the OP!

It's ok to feel a bit sad. It will pass but just allow yourself to feel it - have a good cry if you want! I felt really sad when my last baby stopped breastfeeding - I knew I'd never do it again and it made me really sad 😔 but those feelings do pass and you will be ok. Sending hugs 💐

We are a year down the line after my husbands vasectomy. We definitely didn't want more, but both still find it upsetting when we talk about it- nowhere near how bad we felt at the time though. We were devastated. I think it's grieving the what could have been, the fear that we had made this huge life altering mistake. We talk about the child we could have had. But it wasn't a mistake, we were done and didn't want another. I believe it's quite common to feel upset about it. You must have truly believed you didn't want more to have it done- so don't doubt yourself, and allow yourself to feel sad- when a door closes it is sad. I hope it helps that after time it does feel much less sad and you remember your reasons! And if all else fails, the stats on reversal success actually really cheered me up.