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Sons dad didn't ask to see our son on his first birthday

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cheekycee · 07/02/2025 17:44

AIBU to think - COCK.

Our son is 1 today and his dad didn't so much as ask to see him. He well could have asked to see him in the evening and he didn't even bother. He simply thinks seeing him on Sunday which is 2 days after is ok... is this normally behaviour? Because from where I am standing there's nothing that would make me not ask to see my child on their birthday. Especially their 1st birthday!?

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JHound · 07/02/2025 17:47

Is he much interested in being a dad to his son?

DoYouFeelLikeAPlasticBag · 07/02/2025 17:48

My sons dad is the same. Only sees him a couple of times a year. Doesn't usually bother at birthdays or Christmas. He is also part of the cock club.

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cheekycee · 07/02/2025 17:48

JHound · 07/02/2025 17:47

Is he much interested in being a dad to his son?

According to social media he is.
He sees him 2 hours each Wednesday and then every Sunday 10-5 but has cancelled quite a fair few times on a Sunday...

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cheekycee · 07/02/2025 17:49

DoYouFeelLikeAPlasticBag · 07/02/2025 17:48

My sons dad is the same. Only sees him a couple of times a year. Doesn't usually bother at birthdays or Christmas. He is also part of the cock club.

I'm so sorry to hear that.
I bet you're absolutely smashing it being mother and father and your child will idolise you so much when they grow older. Amazing woman you are n

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JHound · 07/02/2025 17:51

cheekycee · 07/02/2025 17:48

According to social media he is.
He sees him 2 hours each Wednesday and then every Sunday 10-5 but has cancelled quite a fair few times on a Sunday...

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Sounds like he isn’t. If that is his behaviour not surprised he did not turn up to see his son on his birthday.

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cheekycee · 07/02/2025 17:55

It's such a shame though. I'm thankful my son is at an age where he doesn't get it. I will give him everything as he ages and hope he doesn't realise his cock of a father is no where to be seen..

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CarpetKnees · 07/02/2025 18:15

There will be other separated parents who would get VERY cross if the NRP started demanding that they see their child on a day that isn't "their day".

A baby has no clue that it is a Friday or a Sunday or that it is their birthday today or on Sunday, indeed, they will have no concept of what a birthday is.

This is not something to be shocked at or worked up about. Plenty of separated parents celebrate the dc's birthday on the day they are with them. Same with Christmas.

arcticpandas · 07/02/2025 18:37

Tbf your dc won't notice. It would be worse if he was sad over not seeing his dad. I would be more aggrieved over him canceling the few days he's supposed to have him. Just can't get my head around how you can not want to see your flesh and blood.

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cheekycee · 07/02/2025 18:48

arcticpandas · 07/02/2025 18:37

Tbf your dc won't notice. It would be worse if he was sad over not seeing his dad. I would be more aggrieved over him canceling the few days he's supposed to have him. Just can't get my head around how you can not want to see your flesh and blood.

Oh I was but I'm just keeping a big note of things so when the day comes where he tells my DS I'm the reason he didn't see him I have evidence and dates. This one just really got to me.

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