my partner of 4 years does things that he wouldn’t be ok with me doing, for example he will go out and come back and say he was just out with friends and if i ask oh which friends just out of making conversation he gives very evasive responses. If I do the same, he will ask which friends and if i try to dismiss him like he does me he gets annoyed. he also feels like I should tell him everything and we should keep nothing from each other but apparently he does not need to do the same with me. He can be very evasive at times if I ever ask him anything and I do not ask him in an accusatory way either but he just tells me that I don’t need to know. When I bring these things to his attention that he wouldn’t like it if I did it to him, he very quickly dismisses me, avoids the conversation, tells me I’m irrational overreacting etc or worse he tells me he understands why I feel the way I do and then continues to do the same things I have talked to him about anyway a day or so later. He says that I should just trust his word and I don’t need to know everything about what he does or gets up to and stop overthinking everything but I feel like I’m always reading between the lines with him.