To be annoyed that my husband can’t handle his drink

[FishOnTheTrain]

ive been with him for 10 years. He’s always been a sloppy drunk but when we were younger it was more acceptable I guess, because we were all the same!

now we’re in our 30s and he’s still binge drinking. Not really regularly but a couple of times a month. I just can’t stand him when he’s drunk. He slurs his words and is just a mess. He loses so much stuff - keys/phones/wallets etc.

last night he went out and lost his credit card. He’d already lost his debit card. so now he had no bank card and is using one of mine.

a few months ago we moved into a new place and he lost his house key within 4 days of being there.

am I just being uptight?

YANBU. I have a friend like this. A wonderful person but cannot handle her drink at all. I dread doing anything with her that involves booze as it will end up in some sort of embarrassment or something that kicks off. She’s fallen out with loads of her family over it.

Please don't inflict him on children.
He is likely to end up with a more serious alcohol issue.
Partners like this are cringe.

End it know. You will grow to despise him and not want to go out and be seen with him.

Partners of drinkers like this are inevitably pitied.

You deserve better.

You need to get that problem sorted now. It won't improve as the years go on, in fact it will probably just get worse.

exactly this. I’ve made it to 25 years and nothing changes. In fact it gets worse. Please look after yourself first. Unless he really wants to change. It’s so hard to understand , many of us (myself included) drink far too much when we are young but there comes a point when most of us at least try (not always as successfully as we’d like :) ) to cut down. When someone is being defensive and doesn’t want to cut down I’d say run for the hills. Alcohol problems eventually impact on every area of your life - your health, your relationships (including your friends and family) and your finances