This may be a long one but I’m really wanting opinions from others as I’m becoming frustrated.
My husband (together 19 years) has not done a single night feed since baby’s been born (she’s 3 month) she’s not been the best sleeper even during the day (she’s has short naps)
he works full time and has 2 days off through the week. He leaves the house at 2pm and gets back around 12.30am.
It takes me ages to get baby to sleep and she will usually sleep around 11.30pm-12am. she’s then up at 3-4am then takes ages to settle back down. I’m up then at 6.30am.
Now to add we have 3 other children whose school is quite far. I don’t drive so husband takes them of a morning.
our routine is I get the older kids up fed dressed and ready for school. Wake husband to drive them to school. He then comes back has something to eat then goes back to bed.
Now I do understand as he’s working but even on his days off he comes back and goes to bed and even has an evening nap. I can’t nap in the day to catch up as baby will only have short bursts of sleep of around 20 mins of a time.
on the weekends when the children are not in school or school holidays, he will stay in bed until 11am-12pm while I’ve been up with baby plus the older children.
He will from time to time help with feeding the baby but 90% is on me.
To add he doesn’t do anything around the house either. May wash a few dishes once or twice a week.
Anyway do you think I’m being unreasonable for wanting a bit more help?
apologies for my long post. I hope it makes sense.
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