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Christening??

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Mum1stFarmer2nd · 07/02/2025 08:17

I have been asked to be a Godmother to a gorgeous little girl, but I myself not christened… do they check?

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MumChp · 07/02/2025 08:23

I did when I worked in the church.

Why would you want to be a child's godmother when you don't have a foundation in that faith yourself?

PurBal · 07/02/2025 08:34

Yes. But, if you want to, they can do it at the same time. As you're an adult they will (/should) ask you attend confirmation prep afterwards.

ZenNudist · 07/02/2025 08:37

It would be kinder to leave the godparent role to someone who can guide the child in faith.

TheSandgroper · 07/02/2025 08:39

If it’s Catholic, at least one needs to be confirmed in the Church. Anything more than that is up to the priest.

MumChp · 07/02/2025 08:41

TheSandgroper · 07/02/2025 08:39

If it’s Catholic, at least one needs to be confirmed in the Church. Anything more than that is up to the priest.

Does the Catholic Church accept godparents who aren't christened themselves? If it does I'm surprised.

TheyAreNotAngelsTheyDontCareAtAll · 07/02/2025 08:50

Isn't the term Godparent a bit of an anachronism these days? GodPs are chosen for a variety of reasons, but generally because they will be involved in the child's life and provide guidance/support and the bit the parents and kids like most. days out.
Some of the most outwardly 'religious' GodPs are total hypocrites and rarely see their Godchild for years, so no moral or religious guidance is ever given by them.

Greybeardy · 07/02/2025 08:51

both of my parents and at least one of my Godparents were outspoken atheists...perhaps things have changed, but they didn't used to be that worried! (slightly less flippantly, it has created a degree of difficulty more recently whilst exploring faith as an adult to know that the whole ceremony was a bit of a farce...what's to say that the rest of it isn't too...)

CountryMumof4 · 07/02/2025 08:54

A "proper" vicar or priest will check that the godparents are all baptised/christened. I know of a couple that are a bit more lax though. One of my chosen godparents wasn't, but wanted to, so was done at the same time as DS.

Mum1stFarmer2nd · 07/02/2025 09:02

MumChp · 07/02/2025 08:23

I did when I worked in the church.

Why would you want to be a child's godmother when you don't have a foundation in that faith yourself?

Surely there’s so much more to it than guiding the child in faith though.
I myself attended a Church of England school, my child attends a Church of England school, I attend all family gatherings at church.
I know baptised people who have never set foot in church since the day they were baptised

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Nodddy · 07/02/2025 09:06

The point of it is that god parents help guide the child in the ways if the Christian faith.

If you're not a Christian, you can't do that role. Getting up in front of family and friends and promising to guide the child in the faith when you don't believe a word of it is a very poor start!

You can have another great relationship with the child, like aunties, uncles, cousins, family friends etc do. There's probably a civil / secular version you can do if a ceromony is needed, but it's not an empty promise in a church.

Rickrolypoly · 07/02/2025 09:11

Mum1stFarmer2nd · 07/02/2025 09:02

Surely there’s so much more to it than guiding the child in faith though.
I myself attended a Church of England school, my child attends a Church of England school, I attend all family gatherings at church.
I know baptised people who have never set foot in church since the day they were baptised

No, that is the whole point of the Godparent, from a Church perspective.

Maybe it depends on the Church but I've christened 2 kids and did not need to show the credentials of the GP's. Am also a GP to my DN and did not need show any sort of proof.

Cookiesandcandies · 07/02/2025 09:13

I'm a Catholic (non practising) and a Catholic godmother. The priest definitely asked if I was baptised/confirmed but didn't check ... but I am Catholic enough to have not lied to a priest.

All of the promises you make in the church are around guiding in faith, protecting from the devil etc. I felt so guilty I bought my goddaughter a children's bible immediately after the ceremony.

I do buy her token religious gifts still now she's 12, and I take my role as showing her the religion until the time she is able to choose for herself. I've been to her first holy communion and will go to her confirmation if she decides to do that. I don't think I could be a godmother to a child of a different faith or denomination though as I would have to lie in church and in public, and as agnostic/atheist leaning as I am, I draw the line at sinning in an actual church.

TheSandgroper · 07/02/2025 09:15

@MumChp For my Catholic goddaughter, I have everything covered, other GM was baptised but not confirmed and GF was not brought up as anything. So, because of me, the others were allowed. (In Australia).

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