How Would You Split This Weekend Away

[anon4net]

In the Easter break I'm going away with three of my younger children (toddler through to primary school age) and my friend is also attending with her primary age son (year 5). It's self-catering. No partners/husbands attending, older dc not attending as they are doing something else those days.

Family A - One adult, two primary school age children, one toddler
Family B - One adult, one primary school age child

How would you split the cost of the cottage? 50/50, 60/40 or another way? Each family will pay for their own additional costs, it's the accommodation piece specifically that I want to be fair to my friend about as she only has 1 child that is attending and I have three (granted youngest is young enough they are still 'free' for most things).

Thanks!

You forgot how many bedrooms the place has

I think a 60/40 split sounds fairest

She pays a third of the accommodation cost, you pay the rest.

I think it depends on the number of rooms and how they are divided up

Depends on the bedrooms

I think the number of bedrooms would be useful,to know.

Maybe a 60/40 or 66/33 split would be about right.

Agree you pay a ratio of how many bedrooms each family needs

50/50 means she is subsidising your holiday heavily.

How many rooms?

What would it cost you both to book separately?

Thanks for the replies.

Yes, she offered 50/50 but I don't feel that is fair to her.

There are 3 bedrooms. Her dc is older (year 5) so she may have a bedroom and he sleep in the den which has a pull out. Still figuring that out!

Depends on who is using what rooms/beds, A should pay more. Maybe 60/40 if you have one room, your children one room, and she has one room and the pull out bed.

You pay 70 (at least) and she pays 30.

Come on, how is this even a question?

@BettyBardMacDonald only a question b/c she insists 50% is fair and it should be based on adult attendance only. I don't think it is so I wanted to ask for advice. She's also certain the baby doesn't count so is insisting I only have 1 extra kid!

I appreciate all input! :)

I’d split by number of bedrooms used. So you pay 2/3.

You have a great friend. You are also a nice friend. Congratulations!
Either push for 60/40 again then admit defeat and turn up with lots of wine or treat her while you're there.
Enjoy

If I was the friend with one child I’d be fine with 50/50.

If she absolutely refuses how would do something like bring a big basket of goodies to share or pay for a meal out for everyone to balance it up a bit.

Because three fifths is 60%?

How much is the total cost? If it's not too much then maybe 50/50 is ok.

Perfect answer!

I'd do 2/3rds personally.
But agree with pp, if she insists on 50/50 find a way to male it up during the hols

Depends to some extent on your relative financial situations. If you're on an equal footing, then 50:50 sounds fine because who wants to do bistromathics if you can avoid it?

@Tomatocutwithazigzagedge 3/5 would be fair if it were 5 adults but given that it’s 2 adults paying for the whole thing, by number of rooms needed seems fairest.

This but otherwise pay 2/3

I think number of bedrooms is important.

Is the den a separate room from the main living space? If her son uses the bed in there, it effectively becomes his bedroom. Presumably friend has a bedroom, and you and your children share the other bedrooms.

If that’s the case then 50/50 is fair, but her son has exclusive use of the den.

50/50 is fine. You’re both getting the holiday and using the accommodation. I’d expect to pay that