4 year old pushing other kids-complain

[Unrealnotunrealistic]

Our 4 year old has told me his classmate pushed him twice this month, and previously pushed a classmate at Christmas. We reported the pushing classmate, (not revealing names) and told our DS to let the teacher assistant know, which he did. Twice.
we have a meeting next week:
would you: tell the teacher
Ynbu: let it go

I don't think being pushed twice at the age of 4 is something worth complaining about. Your DC should be telling the teacher and they should be dealing with it there and then but complaining is OTT. They're still very young and some children will still be learning how to manage their emotions and appropriate boundaries. Children that age do play fight a lot, or even just playing tig could be seen as pushing. A 4 yo won't always recognise when a child doesn't want to play like that.

Is it relevant to the meeting?

At this age I would say this is part of learning to communicate and interact with others. If he says he told someone it is likely to have been dealt with. The number of times I have to say kind hands or kind feet can be endless with the younger years!
I don't think I would bring it up as it's not continuously happening and the issue has been dealt with.

@Han86 no, it’s not related to the meeting, it’s 3 incidents within a month with the same kid.
It’s not play fighting @JLou08, he told my kid he was in his space and pushed him away.

You are being massively over the top. 3 incidences of pushing in a month is nothing! If it was happening multiple times a day then yes, you might have a point but not 3 times in a month!

Yes to tell your child to tell the teacher but then let the teacher take it from there.

Maybe talk to your child about the space comment and suggest giving the other child more space? Some children have a large definition of personal space than others and they are all still learning about social interactions at this age.

Sounds pretty normal behaviour and I would not bring this up. The teachers on duty would have spoken to the child about using kind hands and using their words.

Sounds pretty normal 4 year old behaviour to be honest. They are still learning this stuff. Some might push and shove, some might not respect other's space by getting in their face or squashing in next to them etc. It will be dealt with at the time and is usually far less frequent by age 5/6.

my kid is 4, pushing kid is 5.5

I wouldn't mention it. Instead focus on giving your kid strategies to deal with it effectively if it happens again. Just because the other kid is 5.5 there could be all sorts of reasons why they are behaving in this way.

At 4 they push and shove each other, it’s unlikely to be one sided at that age. Your Ds will probably be doing mild things to other kids too.

There is no way I would be using teacher time for this. It’s for the teacher to deal with it in the here and now. You have no awareness of the classroom context - children push each other as part of learning social behaviour and boundaries.

I would take it up but not make a big deal out of it. Just make sure the teacher is aware so that when it happens again (because it will) hopefully school will be firmer and call in boy's parents.

R u absolutely sure this is happening ? My 3 year old is a forever telling me this one or that one pushed me. They r very young so I imagine pushing happens. I’ve told him if someone keeps pushing you you can tell them loudly no. Do not push me then tell the teacher. Failing tht if nothing is done push back ! I’m sure plenty will disagree but sometimes it’s enough to just make them stop

You seem gun ho on bringing it up no matter what we say, so just good luck with the meeting at this point.