To wonder how to work on my low libido

[OopsyDaisie]

So I'm 41, 2 young children (4&7) and my libido has been really low for the past 4 years (with the exception of about a year starting mid/2023 in which, for whatever reason, I got my mojo back... but have since lost it again!)
I'm always exhausted physically and mentally (have a stressful demanding career) and sex is really not on my mind. I have some relationship problems (doesn't everyone?!) but it's not that I don't fancy sex WITH DH, I don't don't sex with anyone! If the perfect man, a Prince on a white horse came along, I wouldn't want to shaggy him either! Lol
DH has a normal sex drive (wants it 2-3x a week) and I just keep turning him down as i would much rather sleep! I know he is getting frustrated and if it was the other way around I would as well. Once I get into it (sexless marriage not on the cards), I thoroughly enjoy it most of the times, but also sometimes I just do it as maintenance sex and even when it gets going I don't get in the mood.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can work on my libido?
Can a GP help? And if so, how do I bring the subject "medically" ? (I'm worried I'll just be dismissed "you just need rest, try to find ways to relax, yoga, meditation"... I've tried all that!) I feel I would be much more comfortable speaking to a female GP as well, could this be hormonal and would I be taken more seriously by a woman?

I would speak to a female doctor, she might be able to suggest things. Could be perimenopause symptom? I am 40 too and can't really be bothered with more than once a week.

Watching with interest. I have zero sex drive, I mean honestly it would not bother me to never have it again. I like intimacy with my DH as in cuddles on the couch, etc but not anything sexual.

I love my DH and he is brilliant about this. I could happily live without it but not fair on him.

That's how I feel, but for the time I got ny libido back I remwner thinking "how did I ever think I could live without sex?? This is awesome!" But now I'm back to thinking I would never need ir again... and I can't figure out what changed!

Absolutely the same, like a switch went off one day. I'm trying testosterone, definitely mention to GP, fingers crossed!

I'm the same age as you, 2DC, demanding full time job, I'm exhausted all the time and lost my sex drive about a year ago. I keep meaning to go to the dr but haven't yet. My DH is very understanding, my periods are all over the place, I am very anxious and thinking it's peri but who knows. Solidarity!

Is testosterone helping you?
I have PCOS and the only time in my loge my periods arw fairly regular started after the birth of my 2nd baby... before that, I would go 90-120 days without a period... so I'm very worried of trying hormones in case it screws it up!

Same here.

Cuddles and snuggling fine but just not interested in sex.

3 kids and a busy career so if I ever have free time, I'd rather cuddle and watch a film, or go out and do something fun!