Was I love bombed? Please help

[Mum2two99]

I'm 31, have 2 kids from my ex with 10 year so I'm not new to heartbreak, but this had me completely blindsided and I feel devastated and stupid.

My boyfriend who I've been seeing 1.5 year just ended it over the phone and blocked me.

He lives over and hour away so I go his most weekends.
We always have a great time, he is very affectionate, always dancing and singing to me, compliments me every time he sees me, treats me like a princess etc etc. Acts like he is happy basically, tells me he loves me every day, phones to say goodnight. So obviously I couldn't be much happier in this relationship, he's taken me weekends away and buys me gifts i dont want, his family are lovely and all should be great. We talk about living together, he bought a house which we've been renovating together with the plan on us all living there one day, my kids adore him.
I feel soo stupid right now that I let myself believe I could be happy with this man.

I came here for advice but read about love bombing,
I hope I'm wrong, I've only noticed fully the last few weeks when we've been argueing over the phone about things that wernt making much sense, I assumed he was stressed with work and at the weekends he still seemed normal and happy so I didn't want to bring it up. He took this as me avoiding it aparently which then caused another discussion about it in which I apologied but that only ended in him insulting me and hanging up.

Anyway I try to brush it off, we have a nice weekend and come Monday again he's making snarky comments on the phone. I ask him if there's something bothering him could he please explain what's wrong because I'm confused you seemed fine yesterday.. then I just recieve a whole mouthful how he wasn't fine at the weekend and I should have noticed and I'm just like everyone else who doesn't actually care! I was a bit gobsmacked, we argued some and then he said its not working, messaged me sorry its done and blocked me...

There have definately been other red flags along the way, but I never believed it because I thought he could do no wrong as he was so good to me 90% of the time. I could go on but I've written losds!!

This was not a healthy relationship OP. Sulking, mood swings, not being an adult and telling you what's the matter but acting off and then getting pissed off at you for not guessing...its immature ans manipulative and full of game playing. Agree you have dodged a bullet

I do think you’ve dodged a bullet there. His mum indicated that he has moods so it’s clearly something ongoing. Not for you to work out the reason for these. He knows it’s an issue because his mum has told him but he has not taken steps to address things. That’s on him. You mentioned you have kids so you really really do not want to have this volatility in your lives. So he has done you a favour. I think you need to be prepared for him to restart contact and know how you are going to deal with that. You and your children deserve much better. Good luck.

We always have a great time, he is very affectionate, always dancing and singing to me, compliments me every time he sees me, treats me like a princess etc

This is contradicted by this:

although we don't argue much in our relationship everyone we've had has been how I've basically let him down somehow, he got jealous over texts from my ex about the kids (which we talked through) he got annoyed once when his mum was talking to me about his 'moods'... that arguement caused him to leave the restaurant we were in and me also and return to the hotel. It hurt me a lot and he made a scene and never felt bad about it.

Your relationship was not good.

I think that because your ex was shit, your bar is incredibly low. You accept the bare minimum and are thankful for it. You don’t challenge him and make his life easy. You are grateful for the crumbs he throws you and he gets away with it. He knows that if he treats you with a gift or some nice words, you will forgive him and love him again. Why are you even saying sorry so much???

You deserve better OP. But you need to realise it. He sounds awful. Get some therapy for your self-esteem. Good luck x

He may have seemed perfect compared to your ex in your mind, but in reality OP, he wasn’t perfect at all. Sounds to me that although you had good weekends together, he is unreliable and may be mentally unstable.

You won’t see it this way for a while, but I think it’s a good thing for you and your children, that he has ended the relationship so firmly.
Please be sensible and block him, knowing you don’t need a man and you can make your own happiness for your own little family.
Start to move on as soon as you can, find your own self worth again and be happy!

Thank you so much for your responses, we didn't argue often, every few months or so that's probably why I missed some signs... now ive thought about his behaviour as a whole I can see what he was doing. It's easier to miss these things when the rest is so good, he'd come to mine and just start doing dishes, tidying up basically pretending to be perfect. He did this really well, but when things wernt perfect he struggled massively.

I'm glad he probably wasn't love bombing me but he definately has some issues. And you were right would you believe he's just unblocked me on wattsapp after 4 days, no messages but I can see he's online. So confusing.

I do believe he unblocked you. I know the type well. I'd block him yourself right now because the next thing that would happen is him getting in touch and pretending the whole thing didn't happen or coming up with a long message which sort-of implies he is sorry but is actually subtly worded in a way that makes him a victim. Just spare yourself any more crap.