To expect him to grow up?

[Weddingbells6]

How immature are your 35 ish year old OH’s? I just imagined he would have grown up by now 😂
examples: telling me about the drama between Drake and some other rapper, genuinely interested in it. I can’t even imagine giving a shit about a celebrity drama let alone a wannabe bad boy.
Playing COD and telling me now he’s got a new gun that he’s the best player on the team.

They’re two light hearted things and obvs there’s loads more but genuinely interested in when they grow up! We have two kids.

In my experience, never.

Recently there was a thread on here where a woman's husband believed her interest in pop culture was silly and shallow and immature, and everyone - rightly - told her that her husband was a tiresome, negging snob who needed to back off and let her enjoy what she enjoys.

You need to do the same, instead of expecting your husband to change his interests to suit you.

You don't have to interested in rappers or gaming, but there's no reason why your husband shouldn't find those things fun, regardless of his age. Why should someone suddenly stop enjoying a perfectly valid interest just because they're 35? He's interested in hiphop and gaming, not Peppa Pig. It's fine.

In my experience, boys can pretend to be men pretty well when it suits them, but at heart, they're still kids.

What @ItGhoul said.

No, I'm not interested in rappers or in on-line gaming, but I don't feel the need to sneer at things other people enjoy.

I’m a gamer, I suppose I need to grow up???

Why would someone suddenly stop being interested in something because they are their mid 30s?

He likes playing computer game and rappers. You knew.this, married him and had two children with him.

Surely that was part of the appeal, because its who he is?

My husband tells me football anecdotes and I couldn’t care less but I pretend I’m interested in it as it’s what’s he’s interested in. Obviously we talk about other things too that we are both interested in but that’s a relationship, you let the other person be who they are otherwise you leave the relationship. I know your post is a lighthearted one, just thought I’d give my two cents of a similar experience…

My DH (38) is obsessed with Pokemon.
He collects cards.
He plays on the ladder.
He enters monthly tournaments.
His dream is to go to the world championship.
He watches hours of streamers playing Pokemon on YT.
He watches videos of other grown men opening packets of Pokemon cards.

I don't get it. But I'd never sneer. I'd never say he needs to "grow up". I'm pleased he has a completely harmless hobby he enjoys.

My DH and I are both older than that, both regularly play video games and have an extensive collection of board games and Lego (mostly me) and RPG figures (all him).

We also have kids, why should that or or ages mean we shouldn't enjoy the things we find fun?

I'll let you into a secret.
I'm MUCH older than your dh, but when I have my wellies on, I LOVE squelching in mud, and wading through puddles.
I also like kicking through Autumn leaves, and running through freshly fallen snow.

Just as I did when I was about 3.

Being grown up doesn't mean you can't enjoy some things you enjoyed as a child.

My dh who is much, much older than that and my 33 yr old son are pretty obsessive over Pokemon Go. Drives me fucking mental, but I’d never sneer at him (though I do roll my eyes at “events” messing up weekends.) I think I preferred birdwatching. (His previous obsession)

I play COD I’m 58 and a woman. Gaming is fine as long as it doesn’t totally dominate someone’s life to the detriment of other parts, it’s just a hobby. I mean I’m insufferable when I win, DH is in top 1% in the world of the racing game he plays.

We never grow up; we just grow old.

I live alone and im a woman that as never grown up when indoors.
Its like soon as i get home and shut the door i can stop being an adult and forget about the outside world.
I also own a few very very large plushies.

One of my favourite lyrics is
"I'm not old, just older"