to cringe at this video my FIL posted?

[TheBlueGreyZebra]

I have come across this person's videos a few times and I think she deliberately creates controversial content to generate high engagement and views, but my FIL shares her views and fully agrees with her.
I know is entitled to heir opinion but AIBU to think WTF?

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ID2Zcj4G-hQ

I dont think you'll get many people clicking on random links on here at the moment given what happened over the weekend (I certainly wouldn't). You'll have to explain whats in the video.

Is it Katie Whotsit?

apologies
It's a video of a woman saying that the reason why some women have had 1000 boyfriends but didn't get married, is because they don't know how respect their men and don't know what respect is. She says respect is obeying him, prioritising his needs, and thinking of him as your boss and your employee because at the end of the day, that's what your man is - you'd show the best of yourself to your boss, you'd figure out a problem before dropping it on your boss, you wouldn't show your boss an ugly face and would always look clean and presentable, and if your boss demanded a report to be finished by the end of the week, you'd drop off everything and work on it day and night. she says it's the exact same relationship

Father Todd Unctuous??

I would be thinking your fil is a cunt and avoiding having anything to do with him

Ah, it's Sister Toddi Unctuous. I wondered what happened to her.

Yuk. I’d tell fil what I thought of that crap.

Can't you comment on it? 'What a crock of shit' springs to mind.

Why are you sharing a link to a video you disagree with?

I wouldn’t cringe. I’d tell him he’s a misogynistic arsehole.

Andrea Tate.

lol. What a dickhead you FIL is. I’d be forced to tell him so.

interested to hear other people's opinions

What does MIL think of the video?

I prefer DH's approach in that we are a team with mutual obligations and responsibilities to each other and a bond of love and mutual respect. I'd argue that without respect there can be no love. Her approach puts the female partner in a place of contempt and exploitation or infantilises them.

You wouldn't sleep with your boss would you? As long as treating one another 'like a boss' is mutual

I am not in touch with her so I don't know exactly. But she usually rolls her eyes at things like this when FIL says it, but that is exactly how she expects her DILs to treat her sons (she doesn't have daughters). She even "gives training" (her words) to her DILs when they first get married to teach them how to clean the house, cook their son's favourite meals, cook their brothers' lunches and bring them tea, clean the brothers rooms, let the boys do their things together and stay home to watch a chick flic, put their best clothes on and perfume when her sons come through the door and greet her and her sons at the door when they come in, (on top of working and providing 50/50 ofc!) because "it would be nice if boys did it but boys don't do that".

good point

So what does your husband and his brothers think of this video? If that has been their upbringing, what are their thoughts and expectations?

I think I would be "job hunting" for a new relationship if a partner thought of himself as "my boss"!

You got “training” from your MIL? WTF?

Honestly, my MIL and I are often not quite on the same wavelength but the more I read here the more grateful I am for her being normal.

My husband is not my boss. I am not subservient.

That was the tip of the iceberg. I was young, naive, and had zero self confidence when I got married. I've gone no contact with her since.

Why are you sharing a link to a video you disagree with?
At a guess, I would say to get a discussion going and get people's opinions. Some people may agree, some won't.

Are you no contact with FIL too? I would block him so you don't have to see his ridiculous posts 🙄 does your DH have similar opinions?

you wouldn't show your boss an ugly face

What the fuck does that even mean? If she means you wouldn't go to work without make up - well she's completely wrong there in my case!

Despite not following any of these sad 'rules' I only had five boy friends and then got married.

The video sounds completely grim.