Long time lurker but never really post. I’m with my partner for 3 years. Living together about 2 years. We get on great and think the same etc. I met him roughly 5 years after they broke up. he has 6 children with 2 different women. 3 adults no issues and then a 13, 10 and nearly 8 year old. The mother of the younger children is extremely controlling, won’t let him see the children unless she’s there, speaks in conversations fir the children, won’t him speak to the children if I’m there, will only answer a call if he’s in work but if he’s at home she won’t answer as I’m there. When he goes to see the children she dictates where they go ie a shopping centre, he has to walk around with her and the children, they have food together every week. He gives her €800 a month maintenance then takes them for food once a week, buys clothes toys etc too. In total he roughly gives her about €1200 a month out of his €2000 wages. We’re in Dublin. He obviously has his own bills to pay etc. He is guaranteed to see the children the week ge gets paid as that’s when he hands over the €800. This week she insisted she has no credit for her phone and can he buy it, he refused and said she can pay for it out of her €800. Today I found a screen shot that he deleted of credit for her phone. She’ll turn up with the children with a need to get something for them ie last week it was a school bag, week before that the child turned up with a ripped coat so he replaced that. If she doesn’t get her own way she won’t let him talk to the children or she’ll scream and pull her hair out, I’ve witnessed this. A few weeks ago he refused to take her and the children to the beach so she opened his van and pulled all the boxes etc out of the van. Another time he was dropping them home and one of the kids opened a book he has in the van and he’d written I love you kitty on it and she went mad. She didn’t inform him of the children making communion and confirmation stating the children don’t want to make it, they made the sacraments but she didn’t invite him.
She has notice to vacate her rented house in March also. We are starting the court process but the Irish courts are notoriously slow and not fair. While I love this man with all my heart I am so frustrated with this crap every week. Every week she dictates a time and place but wont say a time or place until the actual day she’ll allow him see the children. If you’re still reading thank you for your patience but what the hell do you do with someone like that? If I knew then what I know now I would never have gotten involved with him but Jesus this is impossible at times