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To be freaked out by DD’s phone?

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goodkidsmaadhouse · 04/02/2025 19:57

DD’s phone is showing 82 pick ups for today, with a massive cluster around 3-6pm. But the phone was at home at that time with nobody there. She wouldn’t have looked at it since the morning - she didn’t take it to school, I picked her up from school and dropped her to her sport and she hasn’t been home yet.
Is there some logical explanation for this because otherwise it feels like someone has been in the house picking up her phone 😱

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mum11970 · 04/02/2025 20:02

Does she have an iPad? I can pick up calls on either. Are you sure it’s showing as calls answered? Who are they from? It’s more likely to be a tech malfunction than anyone in the house and answering 82 calls.

Lanawashington · 04/02/2025 20:04

@mum11970 I don’t think OP means phone calls. A lot of phones now tell you how many times the phone was picked up and looked at eg Facebook, checking the time etc per hour

DeffoNeedANameChange · 04/02/2025 20:07

Are you getting the info off the actual phone, or from her account linked to your phone? Does she have an apple watch? I wonder if swipes on that would register as unlocks for her account?

Lovebirdslovetea · 04/02/2025 20:13

Confiscate her devices if she’s got an addiction

Randomthoughts992 · 04/02/2025 20:22

Lovebirdslovetea · 04/02/2025 20:13

Confiscate her devices if she’s got an addiction

someones not read the post

socks1107 · 04/02/2025 20:26

Hold old is she? Could she have access to another device with the same login details that's linked?

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goodkidsmaadhouse · 04/02/2025 20:31

No iPad, watch or any other device. Yes I mean the phone being picked up rather than calls coming in.

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JWhipple · 04/02/2025 20:32

A mouse scuttling across the screen....

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goodkidsmaadhouse · 04/02/2025 20:32

I got the info off her actual phone. She definitely couldn’t have logged into it from anywhere else - besides, at the time all the pick ups occurred she was either sitting next to me in the car chatting or at her sport.

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Letstheriveranswer · 04/02/2025 20:36

What does it register as a pick up? If the screen lights up.for an incoming message, would that be counted?

Seems that it was all after school time when her friends would start texting?

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goodkidsmaadhouse · 04/02/2025 20:42

Letstheriveranswer · 04/02/2025 20:36

What does it register as a pick up? If the screen lights up.for an incoming message, would that be counted?

Seems that it was all after school time when her friends would start texting?

So I did think that at first but yesterday there were 24 pick ups all day - which seems about right for her actually looking at it as she came home straight from school yesterday and did her homework on Google classroom. She gets hundreds of notifications daily as her friends text in a group chat constantly so the numbers don’t add up.

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MagnoliaGirlie · 04/02/2025 20:55

Do you have pets? Sounds silly but could the cat be pawing at it?

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goodkidsmaadhouse · 04/02/2025 21:04

MagnoliaGirlie · 04/02/2025 20:55

Do you have pets? Sounds silly but could the cat be pawing at it?

We do have cats and I guess possibly…

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SheridansPortSalut · 04/02/2025 21:10

Perhaps run a test by calling it, texting it or doing something that would cause a notification to see if it registers it as another pick up.

A pick up might be anything that causes the phone to light up

FabuIous · 04/02/2025 21:13

Is it all apps or just one or two, eg WhatsApp/snapchat that you can log in to elsewhere? Has she given her password for them to a friend?

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goodkidsmaadhouse · 04/02/2025 21:19

I just tried calling it but that didn’t register as a pick up. I think it must be something to do with that though - although it’s now showing 89 pick ups it’s only showing 13 uses after pick up (6 in settings which was me, 5 WhatsApp which was me, 2 on clock which was probably her doing her alarm this morning).

The only app she has is WhatsApp and I don’t even think you can log into that from
elsewhere? She wouldn’t have given any details to a friend anyway.

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SheridansPortSalut · 04/02/2025 21:19

Apparently any slight movement that causes the date and time to pop up will register as a pick up.

Was it on a surface that could have caused greater vibrations whenever the was a notification?

Failing that, it was the cat.

Seagullsandclouds · 04/02/2025 21:20

If a notification causes the screen to turn on, even if you don’t unlock it, it counts as a pickup.

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goodkidsmaadhouse · 04/02/2025 21:25

Ah yes it was on a glass table. Thank you! DH working abroad at the moment and I get stupidly paranoid about stuff when he’s away.

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SleepToad · 04/02/2025 21:33

Why is an issue? Not being argumentative, just don t understand why it's a problem. You know your daughter isn't using the phone, clearly there's a technical problem and really does it matter how many times she looks at it? I mean she could be timing something, recording notes for school, herself singing, as long as she's not abusing screen time rules/looking at dubious content does it matter....I'd be pleased that she's talking to you/doing sport

OOOtil2025 · 04/02/2025 21:37

Was it near a washing machine that could have been spinning?

SoScarletItWas · 04/02/2025 21:39

SheridansPortSalut · 04/02/2025 21:19

Apparently any slight movement that causes the date and time to pop up will register as a pick up.

Was it on a surface that could have caused greater vibrations whenever the was a notification?

Failing that, it was the cat.

It is always the cat.

Ghostly noise? Cat downstairs

Burglar breaking in? Cat downstairs

Axe murderer coming up the stairs? Cat.

SheridansPortSalut · 04/02/2025 21:41

I think you've got it.
It was the glass table causing it to vibrate more.

IJustWantToEatChocolateAllDay · 04/02/2025 21:42

Lovebirdslovetea · 04/02/2025 20:13

Confiscate her devices if she’s got an addiction

🤔

Letstheriveranswer · 04/02/2025 21:42

You can use WhatsApp on a computer, if you use web WhatsApp and scan a qr code with your phone. Has she logged in on web WhatsApp somewhere and that was being used by someone and triggering her phone's WhatsApp? Do all the WhatsApps on her phone match what she remembers sending?