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How to make peace with neighbours crappy parking

43 replies

inanotherlife4 · 04/02/2025 17:48

I bought my first house in November 2024. It’s a small bungalow in a lovely, quiet area, and for the most part, I’m very happy here. I met a few of the neighbours when I moved in and they were all lovely and very welcoming. The only downside is my neighbours parking. It’s the couple who live next door to me. We're not directly attached but our driveways run alongside each other.

They don’t like parking on their drive and instead both park on the road whilst the drive sits empty. She parks her car outside their house and he parks his transit van on the kerb outside mine. The only reason I can think of is because they can’t be bothered to move their vehicles when one of them needs to get off the drive (a nuisance I know, but every other neighbour manages it)

Unfortunately, I had noticed this during the conveyancing process but naively assumed that they were taking advantage of the space whilst the property was empty (had been empty for 2 years prior to me buying it) and that they would stop when I moved in. Well, how wrong was I?!

I also had to have my drive repaired after moving in and ended up parking down the road as he had taken the space outside my house and there were no other spaces available. I know, legally, they haven’t done anything wrong and are entitled to park there, but it was a struggle lugging furniture, shopping and heavy items down the street, whilst their drive was empty. They knew I had nowhere else to park at that time but continued parking there and watched me struggle.

Anyway, mine has now been repaired and I’m able to park on it again. He continues to park in the space outside mine, but doesn’t block access so no issues there. There isn’t much space between my house and the kerb and my property is also on a slant so his (large van) looks even bigger from the window. I’m coming to terms with the fact that this will probably be my view for the foreseeable future and it’s really getting me down. I’d understand if they had nowhere else to park, but that’s not the case here.

I appreciate people live with much worse and have to park miles away from their property, but we don’t live in London or a large city where this is expected. We live on a very quiet residential street where each person has their own driveway. Anyway, I’m trying to remain positive and think of all the things I love about living here but this is still winding me up on a daily basis. It’s all I can see when I look out of the window.

I know I can’t approach them about it, so will have to put up with it. If you are or have in the past experienced something similar, how did you make peace with it?

OP posts:
LeedsUniPlanning · 04/02/2025 17:50

Could you park.there for a bit? To break the habit?

GabriellaMontez · 04/02/2025 17:51

I would park on the road outside your own house or across your drive at every opportunity I had.

SometimesCalmPerson · 04/02/2025 17:52

What would you see if the van wasn’t there?

Park your own car there when you get the opportunity.

AnotherDelphinium · 04/02/2025 17:53

Is it worth anything financially to you for them to not park there?

Depending on the answer, why not buy a small cheap moped? Have it delivered one morning once they’ve gone to work, and at the yearly cost of £50 tax and £200 insurance, it will happily stop them parking there for a whole year.

WhenWillItAllGetBetter · 04/02/2025 17:59

Such passive aggressive responses.

If I were you I’d very politely explain what you’ve said above, and ask if there was any chance he could park the van on the drive. Don’t be passive aggressive, just polite and friendly and see what they say, the worse that could happen is they say no for whatever and you can say no worries.

VoodooRajin · 04/02/2025 17:59

Parking a big van outside someone else's house is a shitty thing to do, i think i would have approached them politely from the beginning

WhenWillItAllGetBetter · 04/02/2025 18:00

AnotherDelphinium · 04/02/2025 17:53

Is it worth anything financially to you for them to not park there?

Depending on the answer, why not buy a small cheap moped? Have it delivered one morning once they’ve gone to work, and at the yearly cost of £50 tax and £200 insurance, it will happily stop them parking there for a whole year.

Really odd that this is your logical response. Guaranteed way to make sure you have frosty relations with your neighbours

AnSolas · 04/02/2025 18:05

Dont get into a 2v1 parking war.

He is parking outside yours because they dont want to see the van outside their front door.
Best you can do is make your peace and think a good though about your driving when pulling in and out of your drive.💐

Ariela · 04/02/2025 18:06

Can you ask if they would just park the van on the drive instead? Or swap car and van. Explain the reflected light is causing a glare on your TV or something.

SockfluffMonster · 04/02/2025 18:08

They sound annoying and inconsiderate but it could be worse. I have a drive and people park across it on a daily basis blocking me from getting off or getting on! When cars aren’t blocking it people park either side and opposite. It’s a nightmare!

caramac04 · 04/02/2025 18:11

I doubt they’ll changer their habits despite their parking being shitty.
Can you afford some pleached trees and hope roosting birds blight his van? Especially if you put some bird feeders there for your pleasure.
Or put some trellis and grow evergreen jasmine and/or other climbers up it.

Justalittlehandhold · 04/02/2025 18:16

I think we need a diagram?

inanotherlife4 · 04/02/2025 18:18

LeedsUniPlanning · 04/02/2025 17:50

Could you park.there for a bit? To break the habit?

Good idea. I could, but I'd prefer not to as it would make it difficult for (my lovely neighbours) who live across the road to get in and out of their drive. The road is quite narrow and when people park on the kerb outside my house it makes it difficult for them to reverse in/out. Clearly the other couple don't give a shit but I'd hate to be like them and cause problems for other people! I suppose you have to play people at their own game sometimes though...

OP posts:
SpinUp2 · 04/02/2025 18:21

"Good idea. I could, but I'd prefer not to as it would make it difficult for (my lovely neighbours) who live across the road to get in and out of their drive. The road is quite narrow and when people park on the kerb outside my house it makes it difficult for them to reverse in/out. Clearly the other couple don't give a shit but I'd hate to be like them and cause problems for other people! I suppose you have to play people at their own game sometimes though..."

Explain to your nice neighbours why you are parking there.
It's not going to be any worse for them anyway.

ExitPursuedByABare · 04/02/2025 18:23

Speak to them. Ask if there is a reason they don’t park on their drive?

Fluffypuppy1 · 04/02/2025 18:25

AnotherDelphinium · 04/02/2025 17:53

Is it worth anything financially to you for them to not park there?

Depending on the answer, why not buy a small cheap moped? Have it delivered one morning once they’ve gone to work, and at the yearly cost of £50 tax and £200 insurance, it will happily stop them parking there for a whole year.

This.

Don’t worry about upsetting them. They’re obviously not bothered about upsetting you or they would park their van outside their own house.

SauvignonBlanche · 04/02/2025 18:26

AnotherDelphinium · 04/02/2025 17:53

Is it worth anything financially to you for them to not park there?

Depending on the answer, why not buy a small cheap moped? Have it delivered one morning once they’ve gone to work, and at the yearly cost of £50 tax and £200 insurance, it will happily stop them parking there for a whole year.

Genius idea and shouldn’t compromise your other neighbours as much 😁

championsu · 04/02/2025 18:29

I hate people like this, so entitled and inconsiderate.

Park there for a good few months to see if you can break his habit. If they have the audacity to ask why you're not parking on your drive say you weren't happy with the repairs and have been advised not to park there until it's resolved. (And add 'while we're on the subject what's stopping you parking on yours?')

Others will advise to talk to them, but inconsiderate neighbours dont take this kind of thing well and it rarely changes things. Action works better!

Abitofalark · 04/02/2025 18:32

I sympathise with the dilemma you are in but could you clarify the layout? Are you saying they are parking in the road? You mention on the kerb and then you say there isn't much space between your house and the kerb - what is in that space? It's not clear what you mean. If it's in the road, is it a designated parking bay on a public road?

purplecorkheart · 04/02/2025 18:35

Could you invite them over for a get to know you drinks and bring them into the room that the van is affecting the light. Hopefully they might cope on and be more considerate.

AnSolas · 04/02/2025 18:37

Justalittlehandhold · 04/02/2025 18:16

I think we need a diagram?

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youcannotsaythat · 04/02/2025 18:38

I understand ( a bit) why they might not want to tandem park on their drive but why can't one of them park on their drive and the other park on the road in front of their house? Or am I not getting it? They must know it's not great for you to have a view of the side of a Transit van from your window.

OP, have you had any contact with them? Are they friendly ever?

Bignanna · 04/02/2025 18:40

Why are some neighbours so ignorant and inconsiderate about their parking when there is no need for it?

BourbonsAreOverated · 04/02/2025 18:41

Could you get an extended dropped kerb put in? Will push their van back

Househunter2025 · 04/02/2025 18:47

Ask them not to park their van there. For years I lived in a terraced streets where no one had a driveway so you just parked where you could, no one had an issue with someone else's car outside their house. However it was considered very bad etiquette to park a van outside someone else's house. Vans were expected to park on an end somewhere if not outside their own house.

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