To find this article upsetting?

[Aroead]

https://www.mirror.co.uk/travel/news/im-single-mum-went-60-34583779.amp

Phrases like “letting him down was not an option”. So, does that mean letting my child down WAS an option for me, because I didn’t achieve that salary and lifestyle? Have I just not tried hard enough?

“To me, it just feels like I have done what needed to be done to give him the life he deserves”. So I haven’t done what needed to be done, have I not? Or does my child not deserve that life?

The tone is just very self congratulatory. Like, I wanted my son to have a better life so I worked hard to achieve it. Newsflash: All of us want our kids to have a better life. All of us work hard. The fact that we haven’t been successful and become rich doesn’t mean we don’t work hard or don’t care enough about our kids.

Comparison is the thief of joy.
People parent in different ways. They have different incomes, vales and world-views.
Don't compare yourself to others.

My advice is, don't be one of "those" people who hear what other people say and make it all about you. I used to work with someone who was like that. If someone came in saying "I've lost weight" work colleague would reply with "is she saying I'm fat because I haven't?" and expect people to flock to reassure her. It's really not a good look and does nothing for your own happiness to be so easily invalidated OP.

The child will be the decider of how they feel about their childhood once they are an adult.
Until then, she's doing what she feels is right, much as we all do.

Do happy, well adjusted people really spend their time selling stories to down-market tabloid newspapers?
She's clearly trying to be some kind of influencer/self appointed guru and is flogging her fake success for money.
Just ignore it. If anything it's designed for you to feel compelled to write bitchy comments.

I suppose you have to think about why you find it upsetting? Are you unhappy with your own life? In which case, can you focus on a plan for changing the things you’re unhappy with? What somebody else thinks their own child deserves and has worked towards achieving for them doesn’t have to reflect your personal aspirations and achievements.

Well she clearly hit your insecurity spot because I can't think why you would care otherwise ?

Why are you making the article about you?
She is talking about her experiences and feelings.

I hate to say it but your post is utterly ridiculous and no, not 'all of us' want a better life for our kids. I've worked with enough families to know some actively hate their children and really don't care for them.
Well done to the woman in the article. It looks like she is having a fabulous life!

‘Upsetting’? Really?

It’s obviously hit a nerve with you but honestly you’re being ridiculously dramatic. It’s not that deep, ffs. Ignore it.

Exactly. I don’t give these stories any headspace. I don’t follow influencers and I’m not remotely bothered about who owns what or what someone else’s life or house looks like. It really is better to stay away from this kind of stuff.

It’s the attitude of “failure wasn’t an option because I want my kid to have a good life”. It implies that failure IS an option for other parents and the reason their kids don’t have that lifestyle is because they haven’t tried hard enough.

Don't spend your time reading the Daily Mirror. That's where you're going wrong.

That's your personal interpretation. It doesn't imply failure (however that is defined) is an options for others. She made her own definition saying she didn't want to fail at her choices because her child was reliant on her.
What do you see as 'failure' @Aroead ?

Reminds me of the lady on the luxury cruise that takes offence because her husband works 'for Cunard' too.

One person mentioning how hard they work has absolutely no bearing on how hard they think you work.

It’s not really any different to somebody saying “once I had a child, I realised how important it was to me to be able to give them a good life, so I went back to college to study so I didn’t have to try and struggle to support us on a NMW job anymore” is it?

So true.

Children tend to like stability, not being in a new place every five minutes.

For most children, probably the more boring and consistent their lives the better.

This definitely about her, but justifying it by saying it’s for her child.

I don't think it's true to say 'all of us want what's best for our children and all of us work hard'

There are sadly plenty of people for whom the above is not accurate!

All she’s doing is talking about her own experiences. This is how she decided to handle work, life and parenting, she’s not saying that anyone else should do the same.

She’s clearly pretty self-reliant and has worked very hard with little support. It’s not easy to become self employed or start a business - she could have decided to wait around on a low wage and Universal Credit - but it’s clearly working for her and her son.

If this is provoking strong feelings in you then perhaps have a look at what you might be able to change in your own life?

I want to highlight a small thing here @Aroead. There were (from what I counted) 17 uses of "I", "we", "us", "our", "my" in the space of 10 lines. SEVENTEEN.

Now I say this with compassion and kindness because I think you need to hear it and I don't want it taken the wrong way. You seem to be making this whole article about you.

Why do you take it as a personal attack?
Do you do this in everyday life?
Do you ever wonder how this may come across to others in your life if you do?

The article isn't about you. At all. Plus she can have her belief, it doesn't mean it is the correct belief. But lets steel man your position as I don't want to be seen as unreasonable here. Lets assume it was a person attack on those of us who have tried to make things better for our kids and haven't been as successful...

So what?

Why does this bother you so much?
Who cares what others are doing with their lives and kids?
Does your sense of worth come from others seeing you are trying your best?

Just some thoughts, feel better and blessings to you.

I think she should be self congratulatory, sounds like she's worked really hard and achieved great results! And I think you or anyone who's worked hard and not gotten as great results, should congratulate themselves on all their efforts. On overcoming personal adversity. Or on being a kind person. It's ok for people to think 'I'm proud of what I achieved' and that doesn't mean they think others shouldn't be. Maybe you should spend some time thinking about the things you can congratulate yourself for, rather than focus on what hasn't worked out.

You’re jealous. She’s not doing anything to offend you personally, it’s a choice to let a bland article in a tabloid get to you like this. If you’re not happy with your life take steps to change it. This woman is just living hers.

Who even is this article about, is this a lifestyle you wanted or want to have for you and your child. It's not what I would want, but everyone does their best in their own way and people don't value the same things. Just read it for what it is, this is her life, this is how she expresses herself, what bearing does it have on you.

She is saying that failure was not an option to her while she was trying to scale up, I imagine that came with long hours and elements of risk.
I’m not sure why you’re taking this so personally, OP - I’ve just read it and thought good for her.

Horrible tats, terrible name, where is the father figure in 'Dexter's life?