To dislike this nickname?

[Sassku]

This is petty.

My dad refers to my son by an ‘ire’ form of his name but then adds bear. So like Charlie bear or Tommy bear.

I just … don’t like it, it’s cutesey but in a saccharine way rather than actually cute. But it feels really petty to raise it.

If you think it's petty and you shouldn't raise it then it's petty and don't raise it.
If you felt that strongly about not using the nickname then surely wouldn't feel petty.

I don't think either of you are being especially unreasonable.

If you don't like it, then you don't like it, but I don't think it does anyone any harm. Is he a good Grandad? Loving and caring and going to be around and a positive influence in your DS's life? If so then I'd let the pet name go.

What’s wrong with saccharine? It seems a pretty innocuous nickname to me. I’m sure your DS will tell his DGF when he thinks it’s too babyish.

You aren’t going to get a say in the nicknames your DS gets called by his friends.

It's harmless. Let it go!

Is your DS 14 and grandpa is using it in front of DS’s mates?

23 and in front of the judge

It is stupid. I know. My dad is a bit of a dick which is probably partly why I don’t like it but it also does remind me of people who are a bit thick if I’m honest; there’s just something so unbearably twee about it. And ‘ie’ names generally - I mean Samuel and Edward will be Sam and Ed or Ted but I do find Sammy or Eddie a bit jarring.

I mean... my dad calls my son chubbly 😂 I think it's cute that he has his own little nickname for me despite the fact that it's obviously a ridiculous name! It's up to you though you're the parent - could you make sure he only says it in the confines of his/your homes?

Well, he only sees him at ours so it isn’t that. I just don’t like hearing it. It puts my teeth on edge a bit!

Well you can't dictate that school friends won't call an Edward Eddie or a Thomas Tommy OP, so best to make your peace with that.

Why does it matter? It's not offensive and it's just an affectionate pet name he has for his grandchild.

I used to call DD2 Mrs Kisses. I can't even believe how vom that is now 🤣🤢

Bear is okay, it's coming from the right place and doting family are blind to the sickening nonsense until the kids are a bit older.

This really isn't something you can police. If your son dislikes it, he can tell his grandad not to do it. But you can't expect nobody to use nicknames for your child. When he starts school, his friends will almost certainly call him all sorts of nicknames you find grating.

I have an old friend whose son is called Daniel and I remember when he was little that she said she wouldn't tolerate anyone calling him Danny. She conceded that when he was 'much older' he might want to call himself Dan. He's now 13 and I was massively amused to discover from social media that he is known to all his friends as 'Danny-Boy' 😂

I really couldn’t get annoyed by an affectionate nickname. My kids have been called all sorts of name, my dad used to love doing it when he was alive. He added a name to my name too ‘Do’ on the end (first name begins with a D’. He especially liked names to end in ie - jessie etc, whereas none of my three had a name like that so he made one up.

That's appalling! Glad you think it's funny he's ruining his self esteem.

I think you should compromise a little and let your dad relate to your ds in his own way. He's bonding with his grandson and it's not hurting him - you may not like the endearment he's chosen, but maybe your son will. You can't control everything.

(Unless it's Billy Bear, like the ham, in which case definitely threaten him with a violent death if he says it again)

@Ontobetterthings oh dear god bore off 😂