To be pissed off?

[Teeva]

So ex DH is a bloody nightmare. He has the kids 1 night per week on a Sunday and takes them to school on Monday and picks them up. Breakfast and after school clubs need to be booked on the Friday for the following week otherwise it incurs a late fee. Every single week he fails to do it, he leaves it until the Monday morning sometimes and this week the school have called me to say he owes money and it’s unacceptable that he is booking it late. I completely agree with them and have told him that school days are too hard, getting clothes ready/making sure they have everything they need, I even make their bloody drinks for Christ sake. He hasn’t booked them in today for after school and it is just really stressing me out. When I called him about it he told me to shut up numerous times and stop shouting at him. He has to do one thing! It really doesn’t look good.

I have told him going forward he needs to have them every other weekend.

Just take over and do it yourself. What a useless dad .

It’s embarrassing

Tell the school to contact him. You haven't power to make him behave responsibly. He knows what he needs to do, he just doesn't give a shit.

Either that or change the contact day so that his failings have no impact on you.

Take the power away from him. Do it yourself. Then he can't piss you off.

You need to make it clear to the school that you aren’t your husband’s secretary. Why are they calling you?

If youve split up- school need to contact him. After school clubs on his days are your problem

Why should OP do it herself? Why should she plug a gap for her ex’s laziness?

Why the hell are the school calling you to tell you off about your Ex’s bad habits.

Call them back and make it clear that this is his responsibility and they should be contacting him and not you.

This is insanity.

I have told them Monday is not my day and told them to call dad. It’s a simple task and it just doesn’t makes look like responsible parents

he owes money and it’s unacceptable that he is booking it late

Why are they calling you if he owes them money? When they call you, can you inform them that you are no longer together and give them his number, so they can call him?

I'd have no qualms in telling the school that he is a feckless idiot and you totally agree that it's unacceptable. Tell them that he has shouted at you when you have tried to correct the error of his ways and point out that they might have better luck than you. I'd even go so far as to saying it's really embarrassing for you that he is so poorly organised.

i.e. point out that you're the good and reasonable parent and he is not.

Why are school ringing you?
He has responsibility on a Monday