Bored of partner

[Bindyboo71]

Hi is there any possibility that anyone out there; that is bored of their partner of 12 years. .??? Iusr don’t know what to do to keep it alive or just cal it away. Any suggestions.

I'd imagine after 12 years it's pretty normal to feel a little bored. If you generally get on well then I think this is where the expression "it takes work" comes in to play.

Are there specific things your partner is doing/ not doing that is turning you off them so to speak or do you just generally feel you're in a bit of a rut in your relationship?

I think you need to find a way to speak to them about it in a tactful and gentle way. Suggest going for date nights or taking on a new hobby together, turn the TV off in the evening and do board games or make a nice dinner and sit at the table with it or go walking. Make sure you're each having some time for yourselves individually on a regular basis so you're not getting burnt out and resenting each other. Can you save for a nice holiday or a weekend away together. I'd try to focus on the nice, supportive things your partner does and if you need more affection/ attentiveness let them know how you'd like to receive that and ask them what you can do for them too.

You don't mention if you have kids but having a young family is rough on any marriage - you end up investing so much of yourself into your kids that it can feel like there's little left over but that can be rebuilt.

Obviously, this is all going off the assumption that your relationship is equal and healthy.