So, I feel so so awful saying this. I have a friend who was an ex colleague. We worked together for around 4 years before we both moved on. I left before her and she’s been super helpful with many things involving me moving on and how to move on along with the best things I could be doing to do better. I couldn’t have secured the opportunities I have without her help.
However, she has a really annoying habit of dwelling on the past all the time. Particularly in relation to the last place we worked at. She once sent me a huge text saying words to the effect of “I feel like I need to say my truth about being a really good colleague and friend to jenny at (insert previous work place name) even though all my my truth is now being rewritten i refuse to let anyone think I didn’t do my best” I replied after a while saying I understood but it’s time to just let that person stay in the past and not impact the future. Her response was “well I try but it’s hard when you know they are just spewing negativity” then two nights ago I got a message about this meme that was saying something along the lines of a colleague who is hard to work with but pretends butter wouldn’t melt. And she tagged me saying “who do you think this relates to”
As much as I care about this friend. I’m so bored of hearing about the past. I want to just move on. Like it’s getting boring now. I was tempted to say something like let’s just leave them in the past. But I back out again as I feel I’m being horrible.
aibu for wanting to address it