Bad cold with dad

[ByEdgyBiscuit]

Hoping I can get some perspective please.
My 2 year old son stayed with my ex/his dad last weekend. He text me to tell me that our son had a temperature and wasn't well. I asked him if he had given him any calpol and if he wanted me to come collect him early. He ignored me.

It turns out that he didn't give him any painkiller the whole time he had him. We had arranged for me to pick him up at 5.30pm. Instead, my ex/his dad decided to walk our son back to my house in the cold and pouring rain. (He said our son was taking a tantrum and it's the only thing he could think of to calm him down)

I seen them both when I was driving on my way to collect him, pulled over and got him into the car.

He cried for a good 10 mins when I got him home and he just wanted to be cuddled. That night, he was awake multiple times and told me he had a sore ear.

Am I over reacting, to be so annoyed? I feel like he didn't look after him properly and I don't feel comfortable leaving him with someone who doesn't communicate well.

I'm worried I'm over reacting, but I don't want him to have him overnight again.

I think gently, you are overreacting. They often feel worse in the evenings when cortisol levels drop and their temperature shoots up. He could've just been a bit out of sorts in the day, and going out for a walk usually is a good idea as a change of scene often does cheer them up (assuming he was suitably dressed).

Nope. I’m with you on this. I’d be going mad.
nothing worse than a distressed child that can be helped with some medication.

I'd definitely be having a word with him about not giving Calpol if your LO clearly needed it, and asking him to make sure he has some already in the house in case it happens again.
With regards to walking in the rain it depends - if they were both walking and drenched then yes, you are right to be angry about this too, however if your LO was in a buggy with a rain cover so he was dry then the fresh air might have actually been good for him.
Either way it sounds like an adult conversation about how to take care of him if he's poorly is needed. It's likely that your ex wasn't intentionally being negligible so it's important not to address it in an accusatory tone as that will just cause friction between the two of you.