My Partners Family Are Insane!

[UnknownLad94]

Hi everyone i hope you're all well,

I have been with my partner for just over 3 years, i always have had a difficult relationship his family.

They are incredibly controlling and nosy.

It's all come a head recently, my partner sold his sister his old car for a £100 a month for 5 years (at the time she had financial difficulties) she agreed to this and we asked for a contract to be made up.

However his parents objected to this stating 'It's his sister she wouldn't do him over'

Well....a week ago she said she needed a new car and didn't want the one we sold her.

Within 24 hours she had bought a new car...she was abusive to my partner over text saying 'See you in Court' and 'What Contract?'

She has refused to pay the £100 for the month of January saying the payment for December was for January.

She also lied to my in laws about the contract saying the final 2 years we expected her to be £400 (Which was never the case)

My partners mum has agreed to take on the car for the remaining 4 years of the contract to 'Keep the peace and a happy family and not to have a wedge within the family'

Naturally i am livid about the situation, but my partner is of the approach 'It's all sorted now don't rock the boat'

Am i right to be angry about this?

I can't shake the anger towards them.

Just take the car back and sell it

Both me and my partner are at a loss as how she's got a new car on Finance when last year her finances were shot and couldn't afford a Coffee a week.

Car finance has a very low bar because the company will just remove the asset if the payments aren't made, and claim insurance for the difference in value

People whose only income is benefits can get car finance, it's really not difficult

Why not just sell the car and cut your losses. Will MIL actually be able to pay it till the end?. Sell it and let her pay what she can to help with the losses. Don't drag it out

Sounds like your PIL are basically enabling her shitty behaviour. But you can't do anything about that so I'd just note it and not get involved in anything financial with SIL again.

I feel for you OP. We have similar with my DP sister. We have a second home and DP let her stay in it for 3 months to get her out of a tight patch. It's been a year of living there rent and bill free. Now we get the sister and MIL crying down the phone every time he says he needs the house back as he wants to sell.

Sil is golden child - it a battle you can't Win.
Get your car back , sell it and move on.
I couldn't take money off pil

Just take the car back and sell it. You don't want MILs payments for the next four years, it'll only cause more problems. It's your DHs family and his problem to sort with his sister. I'd stay well out of it.

sis sounds like a spoiled brat

mum sounds great but maybe an enabler to her

leave it b let your partner deal with his own family keep sister in law at arms length but amicable for the sake of everyone else.

saying this from experience