I know you’re all probably getting fed up of my posts now because you all kindly give your advice and I just can’t seem to take it but please know it’s more than just ignoring peoples advice and more of a “can’t” situation and I need sometimes just to vent off .
after years of too much drinking causing a problem and my OH becoming verbally aggressive and downright nasty , January we both decided together to cut down . ive stuck to it apart from weekends where ive had my half of a bottle of wine and that’s it . He’s tried but doesn’t seem to be able to stop completely but is better .
Anyway as a treat I decided to take us out for an Indian tonight . All fine and well . A few drinks nothing excessive and a bottle of wine in , we arrive home and it’s all the verbals again .
Honestly , I feel so defeated . Deflated . Fed up . I’ve not worked for a while due to ill health so have saved up to go out , and it’s been ruined . He paid on his card and I’ve given him 80% of the money back as he said when he paid “I’ll pay” and I said no , but if you want , as a compromise you just buy the wine. All was good .
but we’ve got home and now I’m “tight as fuck” I feel like I may as well not have bothered and saved my money for something more important.
I don’t even know what the point of this thread is . Just needed to get it off my chest as feeling now very sad not to even be able to do something nice and it be appreciated.