Asking for one days leave?

[JusOneDay]

I don't think I'm being unreasonable but am totally willing to have my mind changed.

I have booked to go away for a relaxing solo break for 3 nights. DH will be at home with the children, it's during the Easter break, and he's mad that he has had to use one of his annual leave days on me (his words) so he can be off work for three days together.

I am a stay at home mum so I don't get annual leave days and I have the children (2, 7 and 9) all the time on my own when he's working and I never complain because I'm their parent, spending time with them is what I'm meant to do.

AIBU asking him to use just one day on me? I don't make a habit of going away btw I haven't been away anywhere or done anything for myself since before we had children but I need a break.

Did you discuss it with him first or just book it? I totally think you do need a break, but does he also get solo breaks? If you just booked it and told him I'd be annoyed too.

No, he's not using it "on you". He's using it to look after your children. Who I'm sure you didn't produce all by yourself OP 🙄

The alternative is that he finds childcare to cover the day.

Oh no, I mentioned it first and he agreed on me going away for 3 nights. He hasn't been on any solo trips away, not because he can't, he just doesn't want to. He does go out the odd night here and there to football games and nights out with friends. Not all the time but maybe once or twice a month.

Well if it was discussed and agreed he can stop whining then!

This is what I've tried saying but he just seems to really begrudge having to spend it on me doing something.

When he's talking to anyone else and on social media he's saying how he's going to have some fun quality time with the children and it's great but then when nobody is about he's really not happy about it and is passive aggressive about having to spend his leave.