Mum of 2 trying to juggle it all

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I am after some advice.
I am currently on MAT leave after having my second DC. My partner frequently works away however this varies each month, sometimes he can be away for a week at a time, other times it’s for a few days here and there.
When he works away I am left to look after both kids on my own as well as all household jobs etc. We have had a discussion recently about how I am going to cope when I go back to work and logistically how I will be able to do both drop offs (nursery and school) all before 8am when I start work. He’s made multiple comments about me going back to work full time after MAT leave (I currently work part time after having our first child).
AIBU to feel irritated that he seems to think I should work full time, along with being responsible for 100% of the childcare and household jobs when he works away. I can’t help but feel like I’ve pulled the short straw, I do not benefit in any way when he works away.

What conversation did you both have about this before you decided to have a second child ?
If I were you I’d stick to PT work, especially if you’re expected to do the housework/shopping etc

Time that he starts looking for new roles that work better for a family then, isn’t it?

If he can make demands on your job, you can make demands on his.

Get a cleaner, food delivery, and negotiate later starts

It's a probably a conversation you should have had prior to the second child, but you can have it now.

Does he need to work away? Could he switch to a new role within his company or to a new company altogether? Could you source outside help, for example a nanny? Maybe he wants to work part time and you work full time?

There are multiple options and workarounds you just need to sit down and talk about it like grown ups. If he can't do that then you were extremely foolish to have his children.

We’ve had multiple conversations but unfortunately he doesn’t really come up with any ideas. If he stopped working away he would have to take a pay cut which he wouldn’t be willing to do, although I have no idea what he earns when he’s home or away as he refuses to talk about it.
I just feel like he thinks it’s a problem for me to sort and that I’ve got all of the time in the world to also work full time. If I requested a later start that means I’ll have to take a slight pay cut, to which my partner said “as long as you can afford it”. Despite the pay cut having to be for OUR children.