To want a second baby?

[Holly29]

My DS is 7 months old. Touch wood, he has been the easiest, good-natured, sleep-through-the-night baby ever. We have been immensely lucky.

But...despite this, my DH has decided he doesn't want another. He says that he just doesn't have the time or energy for another one. He works long hours and only sees DS for an hour in the mornings. He absolutely worships DS and basically worries that if we had 2 he'd have only half of the already not enough time he has with DS. He's also 41 and has decided that if we have another that's another X number of years of changing nappies/not going trekking through the jungle/having babies in tow or whatever.

I'm quite heartbroken but I don't want to 'persuade' him. I want him to want it. Goodness knows, I know how hard it is having a baby, the last 7 months have not been easy but it feels very sad not having another DS or a DD.

Anyone? What should I do?

7 months is still very young - and you are still right in the nappy/baby/worry stage, however easy your LO is.
As our DD got older (now 2.4) it became more obvious that she needed/ wanted a sibling (actually, I decided not to but got PG accidentally). It may become more obvious to your DH too in a year or so that your DS might benefit from a sibling. TBH, another couple of years is not much to postpone the 'trekking thro' the jungle' stuff by. And as DS grows up it might seem easier to handle the whole nappy thing again. I'd give him more time, if I were you.

I would give it time Holly. If I had said to my dh when ds1 was only 7 months that I wanted another he would have run for the hills. He needed a bit of persuading in the end but went for it and now we have 2 gorgeous boys with a 20 month age gap.

Give it a couple of months and mention it again.

Oh and point out to your dh that actually although it will be tough to start with having 2 (it is! ) when they are both older and can play together it actually can become a lot easier as they can amuse each other and so you have more time to do bits and pieces for you. ds2 is only 7 months also and already we're seeing this

Hi Holly29, perhaps just 7 months is still a little soon for you dh to be contemplating another?

You may find as ds changes and interacts more, a second dc would begin to make much more sense...

As for trekking in the jungle... is he bonkers (eww creepy crawlies !!! )

Guys, your posts have been fab! You're absolutely right, it is far too soon. I hadn't seen that... I think I'll just park it for a bit and then see a bit later on. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to post and it seems that I am not being unreasonable, just a bit quick off the mark!

PS He'd never go trekking through the jungle - he's scared of snakes!

As the others have said - 7 months is still early. If it's useful ammunition I've got a 2yr 8 month gap between my girls - they're now nearly 6 and 3 and they go off and play for HOURS, and are brilliant buddies. It's soooo much easier than having one child because they self entertain so brilliantly. Am about to throw a third child into the mix though, so no doubt things are about to get a whole lot more exciting again!

Good luck.