to not know how to deal with this?

[MarciaMarcia]

Hi, so my daughter attends a sports club and I'd say the coaches are a bit negative. Anyway, DD had a problem with a coach and has told me he is rude and says ' you have attitude ' etc. Now I have been called in as DD says to him ' I don't need your help , I can already do it perfectly'. I'm.so upset that she said this but I just called her teacher at school and he said she has never spoken back to him or any member of staff. She has never done this .
In part, I think it's the toxic environment of the club. They are so negative and I actually spoke them about this lady week. On a way, DD could be reacting to the energy given out. Which is a bit of attitude.
I know she doesn't like the way she is spoken to.
I am not happy with what she said but they say it's outside the code of conduct and she would be suspended.
Help how do I handle this? I have to meet with them today

I would say if you don't like the negativity and the way the club is run, maybe look for something else. If the whole environment is toxic, complaining about it is unlikely to help and just make things harder for your DD.

I am looking. There are few options. There is a new manager so was hoping to get somewhere with him.

This club doesn't isn't the right environment for your DD, by the sound of it. The coaching style doesn't suit her and she's reacting badly by being rude. I think you just need to find another club or a different activity for her - nobody is actually in the wrong here.

It's against the code of conduct to say you don't need help?

You don't say how old your DD is?

If you think the environment / coaching style doesn't match your DD I would suggest moving her.

If you want to stick it out, consider what you want to see change and go into the meeting with this in mind.

Change clubs?

Your daughter does appear to have reacted rudely. However, if this is out of character for her, I'd talk to her to understand why she is saying these things. I'd then have a frank conversation with the new manager about it. If you can't find resolution, I would leave. It doesn't sound a healthy environment for her.

I don't see what her behaviour at school has got to do with it. She was rude to the coaches, who may well give their time for free, and that's not acceptable.

Take it or leave it. If your daughter doesn't like the style of coaching, that's fine, just find another club. My DS has recently done the same.

It could be a personality clash between your daughter and this particular teacher. I would say in general sports clubs are pretty hot on discipline and behaviour because it can impact on safety so the children have to know to follow instructions carefully and not answer back/be rude etc

If your daughter spoke rudely to the staff member, she should apologise and take on board whatever instructions are being given. If she can't abide by their rules then they are perfectly reasonable to tell you that she can't attend the club any more.